3 Ways to Avoid Overwhelm (and keep your sanity!) this Holiday Season

Can you believe it’s DECEMBER already?!? Craziness. Hard to believe, I know. I hope you have your advent calendar up, your candle centerpiece ready, or whatever your holiday traditions are, I hope they are getting underway.

AND, if you haven’t even begun to think about the holiday season yet, THAT’S OKAY TOO!

At this time of year it’s all too easy to get caught up in feeling the need to decorate a la Martha Stewart, or make home-baked goods better than Betty Crocker, or to show up at every holiday party perfectly primped in new frocks like you’re like the biggest socialite on the block (with a bottomless bank account, to boot!)

I don’t know about you, however I am getting anxious just thinking about it!

Isn’t this time of year supposed to be the most peaceful and joyest of all?

In order to ensure you don’t get too caught up in the shoulds and the comparisons, here are 3 ways to avoid overwhelm (and keep your sanity) this holiday season.

 

1. Detach from Expectation.

It’s tough not to have some vision in your head of what the holiday season is supposed to look like. You have your family traditions, your special rituals, your festive festivities.

And, every year it’s not always going to be possible the way you see it in your head, or have experienced previously. And that’s okay.

This year, I’m going to be doing something a bit out of the ordinary over Christmas. I won’t be at home, I won’t be with my sisters, and I won’t be partaking in many of our regular family traditions I have come to know and love.

Yes, I will miss some of it. However, only if I’m attached to certain expectations of what it has been in the past, should be, or could be, will I experience upset.

And so instead, I’m choosing to simply ‘go with the flow.’ Who knows, it may be my best Christmas yet!

Detach from expectation. Don’t kill yourself trying to get all those Christmas cards out and those decorations up on time. Be with what is. And enjoy however this season is meant to unfold.

 

2. Be okay with Saying NO.

It’s a theme that has come up before and will no doubt come up again. You do not have to attend every festive mixer or holiday potluck or eggnog party there is. Not only will you drive yourself crazy trying to be everywhere with everyone every night of the week, chances are likely you’re not even going to enjoy yourself, anyway!

And with respect to anything additional that’s being asked of you, be honest and realistic with yourself. Is that really necessary right now? Is it a priority?

Look at what’s currently on your schedule or your responsibility list. Is there something you can let go of, delegate, or put off?

Be okay with saying NO. And start saying YES to yourself and your real needs.

 

3. Book in some tea time… or rather some ME time!

Book yourself a massage. Or reserve a spot on your fave couch and curl up with a cup of tea or a nice book. Go for a walk. Get your nails done.

Yes, I’m talking about ME time. It’s not overrated. It’s important. And even moreso than ever at this time of year.

And I don’t want you just talking about it. BOOK THAT S#!% in!!! Seriously, if it doesn’t get on your calendar, the chances of it actually happening are slim to none.

I’m pretty excited, a group of girlfriends and I are escaping for a night away at the spa next week… it’s going to be just what the Doctor ordered!

Choose something that relaxes you, makes your heart smile, and that is only for you. And book it in your calendar, like, NOW! Or even better, schedule weekly ‘me’ time and treat it like a serious appointment.

 

It’s an exciting time of year. Or at least that’s what it could be! So let’s ensure it is, and it stays that way.

Want to avoid holiday overwhelm? Detach from expectation. Be okay with saying NO. Book in some ME time. (Click to tweet it out!)

 

Have a FAB week!

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P.S. There’s a new monthly Living BIG challenge up! Wanna join? Check it out HERE.

Shiny Object Syndrome?!? Three Ways to Squash it!

My week in pictures (from L-R:) Good times in Seattle speaking to the amazing Pacific Northwest branch of iaap, getting inspired at the Art of Leadership and hearing Amy Cuddy speak live (and meeting her!) with Heather Moyse, Leigh Mitchell and friends, the 3 finalists of the CAPS Toronto Chapter ‘Catch a Rising Star’ contest, learning lots at ‘What Mama Didn’t Tell Us About… hormones’ hearing the incredibly inspirational Orlando Bowen speak at the Oakville chamber YPEG event. Phew… busy week!

Shiny Object Syndrome?!? 3 Ways To Squash it!

We’re almost coming into the season of lights, giving, and lots of shiny objects. (crazy, right?!?)

However when I say shiny object syndrome, I’m not talking about a crazy obsession with glass ornaments or shiny balls.

I’m talking about those of us who are so full of ideas we all too easily get distracted, or we feel we need to go after the latest trend, or we get so excited by the next project we never actually complete what we are working on NOW.

The challenge? You’re a creative type – so of course you’re going to have lots of ideas swimming around in that head of yours at any one time. However, sometimes it’s due to other things that are going on around us, or in our own head. Once identified, you have the power to do something about it.

And if you are ever going to see anything into fruition, into the full potential it can be, you have to have crazy discipline and immense focus, and stick to one thing before chasing your next big idea.

If you really want to make a difference, you need to work on only ONE THING at a time. (Not that all of your ideas aren’t possible, simply not all at the same time.)

EEK! Easier said than done, right? I’m preaching to the choir here I know… including to myself!

Here are three ways to get your awareness on WHY you may be experiencing shiny object syndrome, and how to squash it.

 

  1. Comparitis

We often get distracted from our purpose, mission, or project du jour by looking at what everyone else is doing around us. And although this can be inspiring, it can also be dangerous!

How to stop it?

Avoid comparing yourself to others. Easier said than done, I know. However, you need to honour your own journey. Trust you are exactly where you need to be. And remember you are only ever going to be the best in the world at being you.

 

  1. Noise

It’s information overload out there! So many fascinating things to learn about, successful people to listen to, books to read, trends to watch. And it’s tough to stay focused and stick to the task at hand when we are competing with millions of bits of stimuli and ideas and advice at any given time!

How to stop it?

Step away from the noise every once in a while. Don’t sign up for a new program, teleseminar, or webinar, until you have implemented all you learned from the last one. And trust you will find what you need to learn when you need to learn it.

 

  1. Self-Doubt

When you don’t think your current idea or project is perfect enough, good enough, or you’re questioning it all together, may find yourself already thinking about your next idea. Not fair! Chances are you started what you’re working on now because you were passionate about it. And so you need to focus on that, and give your current baby a fair go.

How to stop it?

Connect to your why. Realize it’s not about you… remove yourself from the equation so you can come from a place of service. Surround yourself with people who lift you up. People who believe in you. People who will hold you up to your highest potential. And have some sort of ritual in place that connects to your true self… be it writing in a journal, reading your vision, meditating, going for a walk…

Shiny Object Syndrome, although it can mean you have a keen eye for nice things, it can also be detrimental to your business.

Step away from the shiny objects. Stop the self-doubt, the noise, the comparing. Stay on track. You got this! (Click to tweet it out!)

Have a FAB week!

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10 Things You Should Know Before You Die

10 Things You Should Know Before You Die (inspired by Stuart Knight’s Top 10 Event)

My week in pics (clockwise from BL:) Happy Halloween! Million Dollar Smiles Gala event (with Inspector Gadget!!!) Lodge on Queen Halloween Party, fun at the Raptors game (and we won!), beautiful fall day in Toronto, Stuart Knight’s Top 10 Event (with Ruth Tal, founder of Fresh Restaurants, CAPS friends, partner in crime Bonnie Chan, and improv & TV star Naomi Snieckus), Living BIG Mastermind final soirée!

 

10 celebrated Canadians. 10 minutes each. 10 things you should know before you die.

This was the concept of Stuart Knight’s Top 10 Event, which took place on Tuesday evening, at the Jane Mallet Theatre in Toronto, in honour of the World Wildlife Fund.

I love attending inspiring events such as this one, and so I was all over it. And inspiring it was. However not only because the celebrated Canadians included the likes of Ruth Tal (founder of Fresh Restaurants), Mark Breslin (Founder of Yuk Yuks), Naomi Snieckus (TV & improv starcheck out the pics above!) but because they each dug deep, looked back on their lives to date, and thought hard about what one piece of advice they would like to impart to the world.

There were certainly some golden nuggets shared. However the real gold was in their stories.

Although time and space won’t allow me to share all in detail (its Friday after all youve no doubt got loose ends to clean up and a weekend ahead to prepare for!) I do want to share some nugget highlights, in the order they spoke.

 

Healthy people have healthy habits. They have friends, and they move.” ~ Julie Daniluk

Her story of being bed ridden for months due to what she used to feed her body, to full recovery by completely transforming her health habits, was amazing. She now shares her wisdom as host of  Healthy Gourmet on The Oprah Winfrey Network.

 

“Its all about perspective.” ~ David Common

This Gemini-winning journalist blew us away with stories from the catastrophic Haiti earthquake and the war in Syria.

 

Follow your own path. No one can choose for you better than you can for yourself.” ~ Ruth Tal

This idea really resonated with me ~ as I am all about authenticity. And in a world full of information and judgment and people all too keen to share their opinions, sometimes you need to get quiet, trust your gut, and create your own life.

 

The world looks beautiful when you look through it with your eyes open.” ~ Arthur Fleischmann

Arthurs story was incredibly inspiring. This quote came from his daughter, Carly, who is autistic, cannot speak, and yet is changing the world.

 

“Know what you want. Figure out what you want. Go after what you want.” ~ Naomi Snieckus

Naomi flew across the country to crash a Second City audition, and landed a spot in the touring company. As they say, once you figure out the WHAT, youll figure out the HOW.

 

Id rather choke on greatness than nibble on mediocrity.” ~ Charles Marcus

Charles had a sever speech impediment and is now a top International motivational speaker. Ooh that line was a goodie. Its not enough to be good what are you prepared to do to be GREAT?

 

Find your community. Find your voice. Fight for what you believe in.” ~ Ashley Rose Murphy

This young, incredibly inspiring teenager was born with Aids, and her advocacy, speaking all over the world sharing her story, is certainly changing lives.

 

You cant fail unless you quit.” ~ Gail Harvey

This award-winning photographer and Film Director documented Terry Foxs journey across Canada. Inspiring would be an understatement. This line hit home, too. So, the moral of the story? Don’t EVER give up, and you’ll never fail! 

 

“One person can make a difference.” ~ Ziya Tong

Co-host of the Daily Planet, Ziya wow-ed us with the amazing work she is doing for WWF. She has saved more than one endangered species through her work did you know there were 8.7 MILLION animal species out there?!? And we are the only one that controls all the rest…

 

“Every moment matters.” ~ Mark Bresllin

The humble, founder of Yuk Yuks summed it up right.

Indeed. And that is exactly what I did when I chose to walk from one end of the city, enjoying the brisk night air. Making the moment matter.

 

Whenever I attend a powerful evening such as this, I can’t help but reflect on my own journey, my big learnings, and what I am going to think or do differently as a result.

And now I challenge you to do the same thing. Dig deep into your own story. If you could only impart one piece of advice to the world, what would it be? And are you a living example of that piece of advice right here, right now?

 

Listen to people’s stories. Share your own story. Stories are powerful, and when shared, they make a positive ripple effect on the world. (Click to tweet it out!)

Have a FAB week!

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What have you learned from these nuggets? Was there one nugget that resonated especially powerfully for you? Wanna share your own nugget? I want to hear from you in the comments below.

Ever felt overwhelmed? HA! Overcome overwhelm with these 3 steps.

My week in pics: My week in pics (clockwise from BL:) Selfies with friends at Women Building Wealth conference, Company of Women planning session, my place being transformed into a movie shoot, delivering a keynote for MDBWA (Midland & District Business Women’s Association (AMAZING group of women! President Shirley in pic below!), enjoying a proud Torontonian moment, flying out to and enjoying day one in Arizona, beautiful morning rowing, Company of Women breakfast, random photo shoot for Colette, more selfies with awesome speakers Deanne Kelleher and Elizabeth George.

Ever felt overwhelmed? HA! Overcome overwhelm with these 3 steps.

Have you ever felt overwhelmed? Yes, perhaps a silly question… as you are a go-getter, a say yes-er, a living BIG type of person. So feeling overwhelmed on occasion, I’m afraid, simply comes with the territory!

 

It is fun to be busy. Sometimes.

Lord knows I love flying by the seat of my pants. Much of the time.

I thrive on being go-go-go. To an extent.

 

Even though I do enjoy keeping a full schedule, I am starting to realize I don’t want to be this way ALL of the time. In fact, I am beginning to see I need to slow down, take a step back, and be okay with saying no.

Perhaps you can relate.

On Monday, I experienced a good ol’ case of the overwhelms. It was day one of my eat clean cleanse, and although I had picked up the majority of ingredients I needed for the first week on Sunday evening (trust me to leave it to the last minute!) there were still a few more obscure items left. I woke up with a sore throat, had a list of things-to-do down to my wazoo, and all of a sudden found myself having a bit of a meltdown right there in the middle of Organic Garage.

I always get a little chuckle inside when I have people tell me I’m always so on top of everything. That I must be super organized. That they are in awe of how I do all I do.

HA! If only they knew.

I’m human, after all. And I have my moments, too. Trust me!

At the end of the day, we’re all doing the best we can.

AND, when we’re committed to playing a bigger game, to stepping outside of our comfort zone, to taking action even though we may not feel ‘ready’ ~ moments of overwhelm are bound to happen.

 

That being said, it is not a hopeless case!

Here are 3 things to do when you feel a bout of overwhelm coming on.

 

  1. Do a BRAIN DUMP

 Often when I feel there is a lot going on, I like to get it out of my head and onto paper. Write down anything and everything that is taking up mental space. For me, just seeing everything in front of me brings about a bit more calm. And then go through the list, and do the 4Ds: What will you DO, DUMP, DELAY, or DELEGATE?

 

  1. Call in for Reinforcement!

Sometimes you need support. A helping hand or a friend to help you work through things. That’s where your positive peeps posse comes in handy! And that’s exactly what I did on Monday. And I feel very fortunate this particular person was there to help me through. He asked questions that made me look at what’s going on in a different way, and allowed me to see where my priorities lie. I felt SO much better after the call!

  

  1. Take a step back, take a breath, take a break.

A sense of overwhelm often comes when we are just in need of a little break. And when we don’t honour that, our mental or physical selves have a way of reminding us! Which often explains mini meltdowns or sickness. I know you know what I’m talking about here. Allow yourself a break, a sleep in, some time off. It’ll do you a world of good.

 

Feeling overwhelmed? Perhaps you’ve been there before? You’re not alone. We’ve all been there.

Feel a bout of overwhelm coming on? Do a braindump. Get support. Take a step back, a breath, a break. You got this! (Click to tweet it out!)

Youre ready for a bigger game. Overcome overwhelm by taking one small step at a time. 

Have a FAB week!

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P.S. Always wanted to learn the Thriller dance? Ready to step outside your comfort zone and allow yourself to have a little fun? Love being around other fabulous, like-minded women living BIG? Come join us on Oct. 29th as we ‘Surrender to the Thrill!’ and celebrate Halloween! ($30 Girlfriend rate!!) 

 

Turn potential into possibility in the present.

My week in pictures: Enjoying some of the tiff (Toronto International Festival buzz… saw 3 movies!), rowing gang (and the sunset from the water below middle!) speaking to Company of Women Toronto Chapter, Power of Success event with amazing speakers and awesome peeps! Apologies for going over the top with the selfies!

 

turn potential into possibility in the present.

Imagine 6,000+ people, crazy line-ups around the block, hungry for learning and growth, holding feverishly onto every one of Tony Robbins words, jumping and dancing and cheering like never before, celebrating life while sweating it up and TOTALLY eating it up.

Well, you don’t have to imagine it. Because that was exactly the scene on Wednesday at the International Convention Centre in Toronto. And I was right in the center of it all, milking in every moment.

Any chance to experience one of these big personal development seminars I’m there ~ and not afraid to admit it ~ however throw in names like Les Brown and Tony Robbins and you’re taking it to a whole new level.

Indeed I was eating it up. Taking copious notes, feeling my energy levels soar (and I have quite a bit of energy to begin with!), jumping higher and screaming louder than anyone else around me I’m sure, hugging strangers, and getting completely pumped, totally inspired, and fully FIRED UP.

Now it’s not the first (nor will it be the last) event like this I’ll ever attend. However it was a bit different this time. Why?

I used to sit in those audiences, totally fired up, and yet totally full of fear that I would forget all of the excitement and inspiration and confidence I had cultivated in that moment, and never fully live out my potential.

And then I began to believe in my potential. I had some adventures, volunteered in Thailand, shaved my head (raising $10,000 to boot!), lived in an Ashram, learned how to ride camels, to surf, got dreadlocks, lived in a van, learned languages, picked apples, got a Masters, became a bereavement facilitator, started coaching, started training, started speaking.

And then more recently I used to sit in those audiences, totally fired up, and yet totally full of fear that I would be overwhelmed with all of the possibilities that existed, now that I was realizing my potential, and never actually choosing to take action and live out all of those possibilities.

And then yesterday I was sitting in that audience, totally fired up, and realizing I WAS taking action. I am not only beginning to realize my potential, I am creating possibilities, and beginning to realize them in the present.

Next Thursday marks the soft launch of my new initiative Women Living BIG ~ at the inaugural ‘Bubbles & Bucket Lists’ event ~ a dream I’ve had for a while.

Do I have it all figured out yet? Heck NO! Am I still full of fear? Heck YES! And is that going to stop me from going after what I want? No way, José!

 

According to Tony, there are 3 forces necessary for creation:

  1. Focus
  2. Massive Action
  3. Grace (or love, God, Universe whatever you choose to call it)

He also said that fear ‘aint going anywhere any time soon. It’s true. And so the only way to conquer it is to take MASSIVE action.

 

I asked my Mastermind members in our call last night two questions – and now I’m going to ask you:

  • What is your BIG dream? YOUR BHAG (Big, Hairy, Audacious, Goal)?
  • And what is one small step of MASSIVE ACTION you can take THIS week in the direction of this goal or dream?

We don’t get a dress rehearsal for life. It’s already begun. Your life is NOW. Are you making it what you want?

 

You are full of potential. Life is full of possibilities. Are you realizing them in the present? (click to tweet it out!) 

 

One of my fave lines from Les Brown yesterday: “If you die today, what dreams, talents, skills, books, stories will die with you?”

I hope none.

Live a FULL life so you can die EMPTY.

Have a FAB week!

 

And PLEASE ~ share your BHAGS and Action Steps in the comments below!

P.S. Not sure yet what you want out of your life?!? THATS OKAY TOO! Why dont you join me and 40 other amazing like-minded women at Women Living BIGs inaugural Bubbles & Bucket Lists event next Thursday I guarantee youll leave fired up, bucket list in hand, with some ideas to start making it all happen.

 AND, stay tuned for the FB and Twitter contests were having to learn how you can win a free ticket!  

Expectations. If you can’t live without them, how to live with them.

Expectations. If you cant live without them, how to live with them.

 

Nine times out of ten, when upset is experienced, it’s due to thwarted expectations. Think about it.

You study hard for an exam, expecting a result over 85%, and you miss the mark. You’re likely to get upset.

You go into a big meeting, all primped and prepped, expecting to land that gig or make the sale, and you come out flat. Upset.

You get all dolled up, looking forward to meeting your Prince Charming, or that guy that you made eyes with last time you saw him, and nothing happens. You guessed it – you’re likely to feel upset!

Now in all three of these situations, the feeling of being upset, disappointed, or down, is TOTALLY justified! However, these feelings could also have been avoided. How? By removing the specific expectations in the first place.

It’s human nature to have expectations. And so instead of expecting (pardon the pun!) it be easy to remove them altogether, here are three ways to help manage them.

 

1. Expect an overall experience, not a specific outcome

Instead of going into a situation attached to a certain result you want to have happen, consider how you want to feel, or how you want the overall experience to go, instead. Perhaps you want to feel as though you’ve done your best on that exam. Or you want to give it your best in that presentation. Or you are simply up for having a fun night out with friends. These are more likely to come true, as they speak to the overall experience.

 

2. Dont be an over passionate planner!

I’m sure you’ve experienced those days or nights where you didn’t necessarily have anything planned – you were just up for whatever. And it turned out to be super fun? And on the other hand, no doubt you’ve also experienced those nights where every little detail has been meticulously planned out… and you end up being too concerned ensuring everything is unfolding as it was intended to, instead of actually allowing the experience to unfold? The more details you plan, the more likely your expectations may not all be met. Trust there is a bigger plan in place!

 

3. Have a wee little bit of faith. (or maybe a lot.)

It may sound trite, however sometimes you just have to trust whatever is meant to happen will happen. It may not seem like it in the moment, however there is always learning to be had. You flunked your exam? Perhaps you have an even bigger calling. You don’t land that particular opportunity or sale? There is a better one waiting just around the corner. Your Prince Charming doesn’t show up? He wasn’t meant for you… yours is still grooming his white horse.

 

When it comes to managing expectations, expect an experience, don’t overplan, and have a little faith. What’s meant to happen will happen. Click to tweet it out!

 

Have a FAB week!

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What are your thoughts, ideas, tips when it comes to managing expectations? Leave your comment below!

Are you responsible, or do you have a responsibility?!?

HAPPY FRIDAY!

Are you responsible, or do you have a responsibility?!?

There is the idea of being responsible, and there is the idea of responsibility. Are they the same thing? Perhaps in certain contexts… however on the whole I think not. And, I think it’s important to make a distinction.

I had the pleasure of engaging in some very inspiring and thought-provoking conversations while hosting Jim Cathcart (personal development extraordinaire, spoken at over 2500 conferences all around the world, inducted into the Speakers Hall of Fame, author of 16 books…) this week. We were discussing the potential impact that speakers can have on so many lives. He pointed out on more than one occasion that while indeed it is an honour, with that comes a big responsibility. It’s true. And I think that is true for all of us.

Whether you are a professional speaker or not, you have a responsibility to share the best of who you are and what you know. You have a responsibility to share your story, share your gifts, and share your message… even on the days when you don’t feel like it, when you don’t feel ready, or when you don’t feel ‘good enough.’

 

I know you want to make a difference in the world. And so
  • You may not be responsible for other people’s thoughts, actions, or feelings, however you have a responsibility to do what you can to affect them in a positive manner.
  • You may not be responsible for other people’s decisions, however you have a responsibility to deal with every situation with confidence and to the best of your ability.
  • You may not be responsible for the rain or the weather, however you have a responsibility to make the day a good one.
  • You may not be responsible for another’s successes or failures, however you have a responsibility to help them see what is possible for their lives.
  • You may not be responsible for all successes or failures in your own life, however you have a responsibility to learn from every experience.
  • You may not be responsible for certain uninvited, unwelcome, unexpected events that take place in your life, however you have a responsibility to face them with as much courage as you can.

 

You may not be responsible for a lot of things in life, however you still have a responsibility to show up, to be you, and to do the best you can ~ wherever you are with whatever you have. (Click to tweet it out!)

Have a FAB week!

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3 Ways to Make Every Day, Every Event an Experience

Every day, every event, every moment can be an experience. We don’t necessarily have to wait for our next big trip or our next big event to have one.

Here are 3 ideas to do just that.

 

Adopt a child-like curiosity.

Children are constantly excited and insatiably curious. They observe everything around them. They ask questions. They want to learn. And they freely express themselves in an innocently authentic manner.

Whenever I am in a new city, I love exploring as much of it as possible. And Louisville was no exception! It had far more to offer than I realized. Rich in history, I enjoyed walking the streets, running along the waterfront, and taking an embarrassing amount of selfies (I used to try to hide it now Im shameless about my secret obsession with them!) in front of landmarks and random scenes.

Perhaps easier to do when you are a tourist, yes, however couldn’t you also take on the tourist mindset in your own town? Take a new route to work. Discover new interesting places. Observe the sights around you as though it were your first time seeing them. Smile at strangers. Meet new people. Make new friends. Being curious makes for an experience.

 

Celebrate even without a celebration.

It’s fun to sometimes celebrate just ‘cause. Indulge in an ice cream. Be crazy and make it a double scoop. Get up and dance even if there isn’t a dance floor. Break out the china for a random Tuesday evening meal.

There are numerous reasons to celebrate every day if you choose to see them.

Now I love being around people, however one of my favourite evenings this week was when I took myself out on a date to the fancy Brown Hotel. I ordered their infamous ‘Hot Brown’ (created in that very hotel in 1926 ~ an open-faced turkey and bacon sandwich swimming in Mornay sauce, and then baked until the bread is perfectly crisp and the sauce begins to brown. It turns out is has 53 ingredients in all!) I decided to celebrate, ordered a glass of bubbly, and made it an experience. Heck, I even had an ‘old fashioned’, seeing as how I was in the land of Bourbon and all!

Don’t wait for a celebration before celebrating. Every moment is worth celebrating, isn’t it? And celebration makes for an experience.

 

When you get the chance to Howl at the Moon, do it.

In the end, it really is about the moments that matter most. And making moments is easier than you think! So when an opportunity to create a moment presents itself, take it.

I met some lovely folks (I met many, as it turns out!) at the Summit, who very graciously invited me to join them at a Dueling Piano bar called ‘Howl at the Moon.’ I was hesitant at first. Would that make me look less professional? Should I not be prepping for my presentation? What if I can’t help but want to dance?

And then I thought, when am I going to have another opportunity to bond with some lovely ladies, listen to talented musicians while dueling pianos, and go to town on the dance floor? And so I gave into the moment. And I’m so glad I did.

I think we can create more of these types of moments, if we choose to, every day. And moments are what makes an experience.

 

Whenever I’m on holiday, or visiting a new city, I tend to be curious, celebrate, and relish in the moments more. And yes, this makes for great experiences. And it got me thinking – why do I have to be on vacation mode to do this?!? Perhaps I don’t.

Every day, every moment is an opportunity for an experience, if you choose to make it so. Click to tweet it out!

Have a FAB week!

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Now I want to hear from YOU! What are your thoughts when it comes to creating experiences? I’d love to hear your comments below.

Today’s version is the perfect version…

My week in pictures (L-R): Good times camping in Killarney, Leigh Fowler’s Confident Content Creator Club meet and greet, more #Panamania fun! Fireworks every night!!!

 

Today’s version is the perfect version…

 

You know those moments when you feel a little doubt, a little fear, a little uncertainty? And then someone says something that instantaneously makes it all okay? I experienced one of those moments yesterday.

I had the honour of speaking with a very seasoned professional speaker whom I greatly admire. And when he asked me what was going on in my life, I mentioned the fact I am speaking at the IAAP (International Association of Professional Speakers) annual conference this coming week. I admitted I was a tad nervous, to which he said: ‘You will succeed because you will be you, wherever you are right now, with whatever version you have of your presentation today.’ He went on to explain we’re all in a state of beta ~ we’re all in whatever version ~ be it 1.0 or 1.1 or 7.11. And whatever version we’re at, is where we need to be.

Beta traditionally means the testing version in computer software (I had to look this up!) It refers to the latest version released to a select few before launching. We’re always testing, tweaking, changing… and we’re all simultaneously launching. It’s called life.

So yes, every day we arrive at a new version – a new version of ourselves, a new version of whatever we may be working on – and yet we’re perfect and it’s all perfect wherever it is.

 

You will touch the people you need to touch with who you are and where you’re at today.

You will impact the people you need to impact with who you are and where you’re at today.

And you will contribute in the way you are supposed to contribute simply by showing up with who you are and where you’re at today.

 

You are at exactly the right version that you need to be at right now.

Forget about what you or whatever you were working on last week looked like. Don’t worry about how you’re going to be, or what it could look like next week.

We are dynamic creatures, forever evolving. You’ll know more tomorrow. You’ll know even more by next week. And

 

So be it version 1.0 or 7.11, embrace the version you’re at. It’s where you’re supposed to be!

Have a FAB week!

 

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You’ll never be ready. AND, you’re as ready as you’ll ever be.

You’ll never be ready. AND, you’re as ready as you’ll ever be.

HAPPY FRIDAY!!!

I’ve got good news and bad news. Which would you like to hear first?

Let’s get the bad news out of the way.

You are NEVER going to be ready. For anything. 

What I mean is, you are never going to FEEL ready.

Whether it’s about starting that new workout regime, becoming a mother, saying goodbye to a loved one, or starting your own business… you are never going to be fully prepared. You are never going to have it all figured out. And you are never going to be without fears, doubts, or uncertainties.

It’s also never going to be the right time. Your ducks are never all going to be in a row, you are never going to have a big enough opening in your schedule, and your inbox is never going to be completely empty. (Side note: I have made a BIG effort over the past few weeks to get totally caught up on my emails and while I am not quite there yet, Im down to 82 in my inbox and only 11 unread ~ that is HUGE for me!!!)

Okay, now ready for the good news?!?

You are as ready as you’ll ever be. And as ready as you’ll ever need to be. For anything.

That’s right! Indeed you are ready NOW.

Perhaps that sounds like a bit of a contradiction? Maybe it is. And yet it’s true. You are never going to feel totally ready for anything, and so you’re as ready now as you’ll ever  be.

What does this mean?

You don’t need to wait until you are über confident in your skill set before applying for that job, know for sure that guy (or girl) you keep eyeing at Starbucks is going to say yes when you ask them out, or have all elements of your new project or initiative figured out before you launch.

We are never going to be 100% certain about anything. We will never be able to fully predict the successful outcome of our endeavours. And the perfect time to start will never magically arrive.

There is no point waiting to ‘feel’ ready. So it’s time to stop trying ~ because it’s just not going to happen!

John Maxwell said it best: “Nobody ever got ready by waiting. You only get ready by starting.” Stop waiting. Just start. You are ready NOW. (Click to tweet it out.)

So, what are you ready to start today, knowing you’re as ready as you’ll ever be?

Have a great week!!!

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And now I can’t help but be curious! What are you ready to start? Are you prepared to publicly commit (it makes it a whole lot more powerful!) I’d love to hear from you in the comments below.

And, if you know someone who could benefit from this article, please share the love!

P.S. If you think you are ready to do your first triathlon (a gentle one, mind you ~ with yoga, meditation, and a 5k run!) check it out here. There is a big group of #womenlivingBIG who will be partaking tomorrow… stay tuned for pics!!!