Got a tribe? We all need one. 5 ways to find, or build, yours.
The number one desire of all human beings is the desire to belong… to something. A group, a crowd, a community.
We all want to know there are people that ‘get’ us. We want to know there are people who have our backs. We want to know there are people who will love us regardless of what we look like, what we’ve done, or what we’ve said.
‘Even leaders need a tribe.’
That was the opening line from Jayson Gaignard’s talk last night. I met him for the first time at Archangel Summit last week, learned so much, and so was pumped when I found out he was one of the speakers at TEPP (Toronto Entrepreneurs of Purpose and Passion) Talks yesterday evening.
We’re all leaders in our own way. And he’s right.
Forbes has named him one of the top networkers to watch, he’s the creator of MastermindTalks, and he’s had the likes of Tim Ferriss and Sir Richard Branson at his events.
He’s all about investing in relationships and building community.
And I LOVE community.
I love having my kinda peeps around me.
I thrive on the energy and positivity I get from having my kinda peeps around me. I feel my best, confident, ‘on’ self when I have my kinda peeps around me.
And I know I’m not alone.
I’ve written before about the importance of having a ‘Positive Peeps Posse,’ and today I want to expand on this idea, and offer five simple strategies for you to start finding, or building, your own tribe.
Surround Yourself With Like-Minded People.
As Oprah says, ‘Surround yourself only with those who lift you higher.’ This may mean putting yourself out there in new groups, doing a personal audit and getting honest with yourself, and it may mean having to let some people go. Sometimes it’s more important to subtract, then to add to your current network. You can’t go deep with everyone.
Learn People’s Names.
This goes a LONG way. (and for those of you who default to ‘I’m useless at remembering names!’ look up Dale Carnegie’s L.I.R.A. Technique… or ask me about it… no more excuses!) People who’ve listened to me speak are often amazed when I welcome everyone individually (well, if the group is under 50 at least!) from the stage, having introduced myself to them before I start and ensuring I’ve committed their name to memory. I do the same when I meet new people at events, on new sporting teams, or in my building. Trust me, it’s worth the effort.
Be a Talent Scout.
This is an idea Jayson shared. He believes amazing people become even more amazing over time. Pay attention to those rising stars out there. Observe, encourage, support.
Look Up Dunbar’s Number.
A new concept I learned only last week. It’s an idea based on research that states there are only so many people we can have in our inner circle, so many we can have meaningful relationships with, and so many we can sustain even any kind of friendship with at all. And, *NEWSFLASH!* 1,000 Facebook friends are NOT the same as 10 genuine friends! As Jayson shared: “We may be drowning in contacts, but we’re starving for deep connection.”
Become a raving fan.
A lot of my friends and family think I’m crazy to attend the amount of events and meetings and happenings as I do. Perhaps I am. However first of all I LOVE people, and moreover if it’s someone I want to champion, someone who has shown me support, or someone who I feel is putting themselves out there – I want to be there to cheer them on if I can. I can’t do it all of the time, but I do make a conscious effort to support as often as possible. It does make a difference. (and THANK YOU to all of my raving fans out there… I appreciate it more than you know!)
We all want to belong. We all need a positive peeps posse. We all need a tribe. (Click to tweet it out!)
Who is in YOUR tribe? And if you don’t have one yet, who is one person you’d like in yours? Perhaps you may even want to reach out to them today!
Have a FAB week!
P.S. (I know, I know, I’ve had a few P.S.’s recently ~ and while I don’t want to taint my reputation for simply bringing a little Happy Friday inspiration each week, it would be remiss of me NOT to mention the fact that TOMORROW IS THAT LAST DAY FOR EARLY BIRD TICKETS TO WOMEN LIVING BIG – LIVE!!! Get ON it already!
P.P.S. My AMAZING videographer, Warren Leppik of Cognition Productions, created this awesome (although I know I’m kinda biased!) promo video… check it out HERE! I’d love to hear your thoughts!