25 Easy Ways to Make More Merry This Holiday Season!

Happy Friday!

Still on a high from an incredible CAPS convention in beautiful Vancouver, BC, learning and connecting with fellow speakers from all over the world… however there is no rest for the wicked, especially at this time of year!

After a serious leak from the condo above, I’ve had all new floors and baseboards put in, and the whole place repainted. So I’ve had no home for a few weeks (thank goodness I do love hotels!) and was finally able to move back in. Just in time, too, as I’m co-hosting a Christmas party tonight for the amazing Dovetail community of female entrepreneurs, and throwing a tacky Christmas sweater party for other friends and colleagues tomorrow night… because, well, why not?!?

I do love this exciting season, however perhaps you can relate to the to-do lists taking on a life of their own?

So I’m reminding myself, and you, to take a moment to slow down, and connect with what this season is really about.

And as I’m all about small, do-able, fun activities that can make a BIG difference both for you and for others, and we’re now knee deep into this festive season, I have some ideas for you!

Here are 25 easy ways to add a little extra merry and joy to you and yours and others this holiday season:

  1. Make a snow angel ❄👼❄ (ideally right on the sidewalk for all to see!
  2. Donate to your local food bank or fill a Shoebox for The Shoebox Project
  3. Send yourself a Christmas Card 📭 (why not?!?) and then give your postman (or postwoman!) a card while you’re at it 
  4. Buy yourself a poinsettia
  5. Shovel a neighbour’s driveway or sidewalk
  6. Invent a Christmas Cocktail
  7. Spend a day in your robe and just do nothing 
  8. Buy coffee for the person behind you in line ☕ 
  9. Get a sparkly festive manicure 💅
  10. Go to the movies to watch a vintage holiday classic 📽 (or stay in your jammies and watch Love Actually!)
  11. Learn a Christmas tune on the ukulele or the nose flute (talk to me if you’ve never heard of the nose flute, and I’ll introduce you to my good friend David Gouthro, who also happens to be the founder of the Vancouver Nose Flute Ensemble!)
  12. Treat yourself to a comfy onesie… be it a cheesy Christmas themed one or a snuggie!  
  13. Go to a fancy store, and try on a ridiculously expensive fuzzy, furry item… just ‘cause! (Or go to Value Village and buy a tacky Christmas sweater!)
  14. Build a Snowman ☃
  15. Visit your local Children’s hospital or hospice and enjoy some meaningful moments
  16. Buy chocolates for an old teacher, a mentor, or yourself
  17.  Go ice skating ⛸ or tobogganing 🛷 !
  18. Put on a pair of reindeer antlers and walk around town as if all is normal.(Maybe even make some ‘neeeiiigghh’ sounds!)
  19. Indulge in an obnoxiously large and fancy hot chocolate or other holiday beverage (I’m talking like Venti Gingerbread Latte styles!) 
  20. Bond with a stranger and turn them into a friend
  21. Spend some time out in nature. Go for a walk and if you’re lucky to have snow where you are, listen to the crunch sound under your feet as you walk
  22.  Bake cookies 🍪
  23.  Make an easy holiday craft (I always found reindeer candy canes the easiest!)
  24. Get a few friends or neighbours together and go Christmas Caroling 🔔
  25.  Crank up the 🎶 Christmas tunes 🎵 while driving, while cooking, or whenever… and get your belt on! 

 

Lots of ideas there… I hope you take on just ONE this week!

And then please do share your stories  below ~ and also feel free to add your ideas to the list! Always on the lookout for new fun things to do.

Remember, it’s not about simply adding more to your to-do list, rather to offer a fun respite of sorts, and get re-connected with what this holiday season is really about.

Have a FAB time making merry this week!

 

 

 

 

P.S. My friend Warren Leppik at Cognition Productions made a holiday card on my behalf for y’all… check it out HERE!

Here to make an impact? Get over yourself already.

Confession time. 

Over the weekend I almost, kinda, had a ‘woe is me’ moment. 

It was the long weekend, and everyone and their dog seemed to be escaping the city for a fun getaway or good times up at the cottage. 

And I was ‘stuck’ at home. 

Boo hoo. 

(enter the almost, kinda, ‘woe is me’ moment!)

As it turns out, I ended up having a pretty amazing weekend.

A few of us went over to Toronto Island and went stand up paddleboarding followed by a lovely picnic. And the next day we had a great day with some pool party action followed by a delicious BBQ with family and friends. 

If only I realised in the moment just how much fun I was having.

If only I didn’t get caught in the comparison trap. 

If only I wasn’t making it all about me. 

You see the problem is, we can get a little too self-consuming.

We’re worried about not doing enough, not making enough, not having enough, not contributing enough, not being good enough…

We want to make a difference, and an impact, and yet we’re too caught up in our own ‘stuff.’

And the irony is, even though we want to make it about others, we’re making it more about us!

If we truly are going to make the difference we are here to make, we need to get over ourselves already!

So, how are we going to solve it? 

Start recognising it’s less about us, and more about the people we want to impact. 

You can’t make it about YOU if you’re here to make a difference. 

And you’ll start moving forward when you choose to be ready to make that difference. 

And I’m pretty sure that’s what you’re here to do. 

So here are three ways to get you started.

1. Identify what impact you want to make. 

It may sound trite, but it’s a terrifying world out there. Now I gave up reading the news regularly a while ago, but you don’t have to look very far or wide to acknowledge all of the injustices, atrocities, tragedies, sickness, and sadness that is all around us. 

It may be overwhelming to know what to do, and where to start. 

Start by recognising the gifts you have to bring, and who – what group of people – is going to benefit the most. 

Are you a horse whisperer? Are you amazing with children? Do you have a knack for solving complicated logistical challenges?

Whether it’s working with the UN, serving food to the homeless, or cleaning up the streets, choose what cause, or what population, you want to impact. What do you care about? What are you passionate about? Start there. 

2. Make your impact more important than your insecurities

It’s scary to put ourselves out there in an bigger way. To put a stake in the ground. To declare what it is you want to do here with the time we have on this planet.

I’ll be the first to admit I get stuck in feeling not ready, not good enough,  not you-fill-in-the-blank here on a regular basis. And, I’m a work in progress! I have to constantly remind myself I have to get over myself if I’m really here to make an impact. 

3. Start Small 

It’s a little too daunting to think we can eradicate poverty or cancer or war overnight. 

And, it’s too foolish to think we can’t make a dent in anything at all. We can. You can. 

So choose the cause/population/person you want to make an impact on, and identify ONE SMALL THING you could do, starting today. 

Maybe it’s picking up garbage while you run. Or giving subway fare to the next homeless person you see, so they can get to a shelter. Perhaps it’s making time to listen to a friend in need. 

Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has. ~  Margaret Mead

I’m human. You’re human. We’re human. 

We’re going to have fears, doubts, insecurities. 

And so I’m inviting you to be brave.

Brave enough to admit you are here to make an impact. Brave enough to choose the impact over your insecurities. And brave enough to take the first small, imperfect, step today. 

And then I want to hear what you’re committing to in the comments below.

Have a FAB week!

Looking Beyond The Selfie…

I tend to get a bit of flak on occasion for the fact I take my fair share of selfies. 

I’ve gotten the eye roll on more than one occasion with friends and colleagues when I deem it ‘selfie time!

And when people call me the selfie queen, I’m not always sure it’s intended as a compliment!

It’s true, I do enjoy taking selfies. 

But I want to make one thing clear.

I am not about taking selfies of myself in front of a bathroom mirror!

To me, selfies are not about selfies at all.

To me, selfies are all about connection. 

I’ve been fortunate to have travelled extensively and lived in various parts of the world. And I’ve snapped selfies with individuals and groups in all kinds of interesting situations.

With strangers while on motorbikes in Colombia, with food vendors in Croatia, and with a whole lotta airline representatives and ground traffic controllers from goodness knows where! And I’m pretty sure I’m over  1,000 folks in one selfie captured from the stage. 

And you know what I’ve found to be true in every occasion?

People may not always like having their picture taken, but they love being a part of something. 

Ultimately, you and I want to be seen, we want to belong.

And if only for a brief instant in time, selfies can be a way to do just that. They connect people together.

And ideally, conversation is then sparked which goes deeper than the apparent surface level selfie. 

And that’s where the real fun begins!

You see, I genuinely love people. 

I love talking to people, connecting with people, and hearing their stories. 

Whether in an elevator, in an airplane, or in line at the grocery store, it’s not uncommon to find myself in deep conversations about someone’s story, their philosophy, or life in general. 

And this week, while having the honour of speaking at the SHRM conference in Chicago, I met some incredible people and had some incredible below-the-surface conversations. 

With Richard, one of my uber drivers, whose agency of 500 almost folded after the market crashed in 2008, and hasn’t shaved his beard since the day he was forced to sell his beloved sailboat. 

With Deborah, the cashier at Hudson News, who has done her hair in the same impressive princess braid for over 30 years and whose pride and joy are her grandchildren.

With Ryan, who was sitting next to me on the airplane, and with whom we got into a deep discussion on life, love, and the state of the world today, and before I knew it we were landing!

Connection – true connection – is powerful, and it doesn’t take too much effort to get there. 

I know life gets busy. Yet I have never engaged in a conversation, even when I had intentions to be ‘more productive,’ that I later regretted. 

People want to be seen, to be heard, to belong, to matter. 

Today and this week, I challenge you to go out of your way to connect. Whether with people you already know, perhaps on a deeper level, or with people you have yet to meet. 

You never know who you may bump into, or how you may make someone’s day. 

So take the time to smile. To say hello to a stranger. To give a compliment to someone you cross paths with. Or, dare I say it, get some folks together for a selfie!

And be open to the beautiful connections that may unfold as a result. 

Have a FAB week!

Don’t Let These Bravery Killers Get You!

They (whoever ‘they’ are!) say confidence is one of the most attractive things you can wear. And it’s true. 

Some people just seem to have ‘it’ naturally. 

The X factor, the gravitas, the ‘je ne sais quoi’ that makes them stand out in any room. The thing that makes them unafraid to take risks and make things happen. 

It’s not competence, folks. It’s confidence. 

AND, even more than that, it’s about being BRAVE. And it’s available to all of us.

In preparation for my upcoming talk at SHRM next week (I’m delivering a mega session to 2000 people… EEK!) I’ve been doing more research recently about confidence and bravery ~ what it is, what it isn’t, what kills it, and what builds it. 

I came across an amazing book, The Confidence Code, written by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman, who share some incredible insights. 

It turns out both nature AND nurture affect our confidence. 

Some fascinating research exists on the fact women and men’s brains are actually wired differently, we produce different hormones, and we each have an individual genetic make-up – and all of these play a role in terms of how confident we are naturally.

And, there are also thoughts and behaviours that are learned through our experiences, upbringing, and society. (Did you know that in a Harvard study looking at gender effects on performance, girls who had to write out their gender on a math test before completing it, performed more poorly than those who did not have to write it out?!? Crazy!)

There are also ‘bravery killers.’ And that’s where I want to dive into today. Because, as it turns out, I’m noticing some of my own bravery killers that I admittedly employ on perhaps too regular of a basis.

Perfectionism 


A study showed that women want to have approximately 85-95% of the qualifications on a job requirement before submitting an application. Versus men, who apply when they identify as having 15-25%!

We wait until there is very little likelihood of failure before taking action. 

We also tend to over-prepare, if anything… in wanting to ensure we get things right, we look good, and we avoid looking bad. 

We want to be perfect, appear perfect, and perform perfectly, all too often. And because it’s an ideal that doesn’t exist, we often feel bad about ourselves when we fall short.

Or, we live in perfectionist paralysis, and don’t put ourselves out there at all.

People-Pleasing

Ah-yes, people-pleasing. 

Yup, I still do that, too. 

Now in my defence, women have a more active hippocampus in our brains than men do, and so are more wired for connection and empathy. While this can be looked at as a good thing, we also have to be careful.  It’s a proven fact women are more interested in being liked than being respected, and as a result we often care too much about what people think.

At times our behaviours are more motivated by not wanting to ruffle any feathers, or by wanting to be liked, instead of doing what is right for us. 

Procrastination and/or P-a-u-s-i-n-g (and over-analysing!)  

Sometimes tied to perfectionism, the idea here is we tend to spend FAR too much time thinking and analysing. Waiting to feel ready or good enough or for the perfect moment to arrive before taking that first or next step. 

We hesitate. We pause. We ruminate. We procrastinate. 

And when we get too caught up in our heads, we tend to imagine worse-case scenarios, listen to the negative voices in our heads that tell us we can’t, we’re crazy, or our idea will never work. 

And as a result, we often don’t take any action at all. 

Okay, so how do we move past these bravery killers?

Awareness, Insight, Action. 

First, you need to identify what killer is coming up for you in the moment.

Gain awareness, and get real. Are you taking on a behaviour or an action because it feels right to YOU? Or because you are trying to get someone to like you? 

Are you finding an excuse as to why you’re not taking on a behaviour or an action because you’re stuck in your head? Are you listening to those negative voices? Are you wanting to be PERFECT before you even begin?

Notice what is happening. And examine why it may be happening for you. Look inside yourself. Insight brings clarity. 

And finally, it’s time to take ACTION! 

The only way to build bravery is through action. PERIOD. 

You’re not going to think your way into feeling more confident. Instead, you have to choose to get into actin before you feel ready. That’s what it means to be brave.

Action builds your bravery muscle, even if the action isn’t related to the area you may be lacking it.

And action is contagious. That first, small brave move is all you need to take!

If you were even braver than you are right now, if you were even more confident than you are right now, what one small action would you take? 

And WHEN are you going to take it?!?

Today seems like a pretty good day to me! Go ahead, I DARE you!

You don’t need to learn any more, get any more qualifications, do any more prep work.

I truly believe each and every one of us is here for a greater purpose. And when we are holding back or letting our confidence killers get the better of us, we’re not showing up in the biggest version of ourselves. And we’re not going to make the biggest impact we can make. 

Which bravery killer holds YOU back the most? And what is that one small action you are going to take (maybe even today?!?) to move you forward?

I want to hear from you in the comments below. 

Have a FAB day!

The world needs your fighting. Someone needs your cheering.

The world needs your fighting. Someone needs your cheering.

Standing at the Run for the Cure Wall of Hope, seeing all of those names and meaningful messages to loved ones remembered, still bravely fighting, or celebrating survival, is always an emotional moment for me.

And this past Sunday ~ despite being clad in wings, flowers, feathered boas et al, despite the sea of pink (my fave colour always makes me happy,) and despite watching the sun bursting through the clouds to appear in its magnificence over the CN tower (it was forecasted to rain!) ~ was no different.

Although it’s been 11 years since losing my Mother to breast cancer, and 10 years of participating in the run, it still gets me every time. (You can read my full story here… and yes, if you feel like donating the equivalent of a latté I won’t say no!)

There was an estimated 94,040 Changemakers in 63 communities across Canada running, and approximately 30,000 at the Toronto location.

There’s something powerful about seeing community come together to run for something they believe in. To run for people they believe it. The determination and fight that so many display (especially the survivors) is quite remarkable actually. And it’s incredibly inspiring.

To think every single one of us there have been affected or touched in some way by breast cancer, is crazy. Moreover, to think that is only ONE type of cancer, and cancer is only ONE type of disease, and disease is only ONE of the big scary issues out there we face daily is insane.

There’s a lot of big, bad, ‘stuff’ out there – and a lot of it is out of our control. That being said, you can choose to be victim to whatever life has thrown at you, or you can choose to stand up and fight back.

The world needs more fighters.

And the world needs more champions.

The other thing that gets me about this run is all of cheerleaders along the route ~ the volunteers waving signs, the bystanders ringing cowbells, and the musicians performing in full on costumes and wigs. You can’t help but smile and get a little burst of energy to keep going.

It’s not about the distance or the speed. It’s not a race. It’s about you pushing yourself to fight for something, or someone, you believe in.

Who, or what in your life is worth fighting for? And are you fighting the good fight?

Who, or what, in your life needs championing? And are you being the cheerleader you can be?

It doesn’t have to be cancer, or world peace either (although both noble causes… )

A clean kitchen, a chance to be heard, your values, landing your dream job, making it across the finish line, family dinners, open communication, regular exercise… all worth fighting for in my opinion.

“Better to fight for something than live for nothing.” ~ George S. Patton What are YOU fighting for? Who are you cheering on? (Click to tweet it out)

 

So, what are you fighting for? Who may need your cheerleading this week? I’d love to hear from you in the comments below.

 

Have a FAB week!

 

Carol

You do YOU, and I’ll do ME.

This week I was intending to recycle one from the archives. You see I’m working on an exciting new program – which I’m soft launching TODAY! – and wanted to give myself permission to work on the copy, as well as my book (Fridays are now my writing days!)

At least, that was the plan.

You know what happened instead?

I ended up getting sucked into the ‘Happy Friday’ vortex ~ and spent way too much time re-reading these emails that I’ve been writing for – get this – almost 5 years! Holy geez! Just WHERE does the time go?!?

And the biggest ah-ha I had? I don’t really think I’ve changed very much in all that time.

I’m writing about much the same things, and in much the same way.

It’s funny. I would’ve thought I’d be in such a different place by now ~ however I guess it just means I’m still me. Which is a good thing, no?

I mean, a lot has changed – I started by writing about my time living in Germany and then Wales to keep my friends and family in the loop – and now I have a blog, a business, and I’m writing from back home in Toronto (at least this week!), to my extended community about my journeys and my learnings, sprinkled with dashes of inspiration and ideas of how to live just a little bit bigger.

I’ve grown, I’ve done different things, I’ve achieved a few new things, however I’m still me.

And no matter where I go or how I grow, let’s hope I will always, at the core, still be me.

We’re growing every day, changing every day, and hopefully also enjoying the journey every day. I’m learning to quiet the noise ~ to look less at what everyone else is trying to do, and instead focus more on what is right for me.

BE more you and DO more you. You’re the only one in the world who has all you have. And it deserves to be shared. (click to tweet it out!)

Seeing as how I ended up doing some self-reflection this week, I’d like to offer you the same thing.

Read the following questions, and choose to answer at least 10. (And if you REALLY want to go crazy ~ answer them all! Go on, DO IT! I dare you.) And then let me know how you get on. Doing so will help you to BE more and DO more you.

  • What excites me? What lights me up?
  • How do I show up in the world? How do I want to show up in the world?
  • How do others see me?
  • What experiences do I want to create?
  • What do I want to accomplish with my time on this earth?
  • What will my legacy be?
  • How do I want to feel?
  • How do you want to feel when you wake up in the morning, and when you go to sleep at night?
  • If time nor money were no object, what would I be doing right now?
  • What do I truly love about myself?
  • What am I grateful for right here, right now?
  • How can I make a difference in this world?
  • How can I add value to someone’s life today, right now?
  • What do I stand for?
  • Am I giving my best where I can give my best?
  • Am I living my best life? What’s getting in my way?
  • What do I want to do more of each day?
  • What do I want to do less of each day?
  • What is good enough right now?
  • What is right with this picture?
  • How full is my glass today?
  • What shift could I make right now?
  • What is one habit, that if implemented, would make all the difference?
  • What does happiness look like – feel like – to me?
  • What does success look like to me? Where do I feel successful in my life?
  • What matters to me? I mean, what really matters to me?
  • How or where could I create some space for something new?
  • Where am I having fun in my life? Where could I have more fun?
  • If it is worth the effort, am I giving it all of my effort?
  • How big is the pie? How big is my slice?
  • What is one step I could take, right now, that might bring me closer to something I’ve always wanted to do, or someone I’ve always wanted to be?

GOOD LUCK with this exercise… and let me know how it goes ~ leave me a note!

AND, seeing as how I’m soft launching my exciting new offer today – I won’t let you down, and will give you a little preview. It’s called: ‘My BIG Breakthrough Day’ ~ and it entails you, me, some intense work busting through your biggest fears, and creating a custom-tailored experience (Skydiving? Race car driving? Ziplining?) that will have you achieve something you NEVER thought possible. It’s that day that will mark the first day of the rest of your life. And it will be a day that you will no doubt remember for the rest of your life. Wanna learn more? See if it’s a fit? Book a call with me! Let’s DO this!

Have a FAB week!

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Less Talk, More Do: The best time to take action is NOW!

Less Talk, More Do: The best time to take action is NOW!

Happy Friday!

I don’t know about you, but I get ideas and think about goals and dream big dreams on a pretty regular basis. Like, daily. And while many of these ideas and goals and dreams are fleeting, some stick with me. And in my mind, I am making them happen. And yet in reality, I am not pushing the ball forward.

Is there something you’ve been wanting to do for a while now, thinking about doing for a while now, and are almost sick of hearing yourself talk about doing for a while now?

Something you perhaps want to actually start DOING something about already?

That is me when it comes to my book!

I actually started well over a year ago… did the pre-work, the brainstorming of what I wanted to share, why me, why now, brain dumped all of my thoughts, organized those thoughts into categories, chose chapters from those categories, and created a writing schedule. I even sat down a few times and did do some writing.

And then something happened.

I got distracted, I got derailed, I lost confidence, or I let the fear get the better of me.

And that is not the first time it’s happened!

Perhaps you can relate?

This week, I enjoyed a full day intensive with my mastermind. (I am so grateful to have so much support and so many special ladies in my life!) And one of the biggest ahas that came out of the day was that most all of the successes I’ve enjoyed have come from a place of powerful decisions. And powerful decisions have come from a place of confidence.

My commitment over the next ninety days to the group is to focus on powerful decisions. Which means I am going to have to come from a place of confidence!

Getting back to writing my book, and committing to finishing it, is one of these decisions.

I’ve decided to take the plunge and have joined my friend Jenny McKaig’s ‘Become a Published Author’ course… and I’m going to make it happen!

More on that in a moment, however I want to ask you a few questions:

  • What is that ONE thing you have wanted to do for way too long to remember?
  • What has been holding you back?
  • What would your life look like in a year from now if you started acting on it today?
  • What would be that FIRST step in taking action towards making it happen?
  • What are you waiting for?!?

We all have the best of intentions. And yet sometimes it takes a whole lotta confidence and massive action to create the life we truly desire.

So, what do you REALLY want to make happen?

And if it’s a book ~ wanna commit and play with me?

If you know you have a story to share, a message to get out, and a book in you ~ I want to invite you on this journey with me. Selfishly, I would LOVE to have some friends join me in this program to help keep me accountable. AND, if now is the time for you to get that book out, let’s DO IT!

I know you’re like me – and have big dreams – and so if a book is one of them, I want to share this opportunity with you.

Jenny’s program starts next week, so we can jump right in together! It’s 6 months of start-to-finish book writing ~ with all the resources, tools, guidance, accountability and support along the way to get our book DONE.

If you’re looking to reach more people, expand your business, or get your message out there, then here is your chance.

Join me in this course today: https://goo.gl/w09EPp (and, Jenny has generously given a promo code to my community… which gives you 66% off! Use promo code: BPACarol to save!)

 

I want to stop talking about writing my book.

I want to start doing it.

 

Whether it’s a book, or that program, or that trip you’ve always wanted to take… make a powerful decision today to get the ball rolling.

What is that ONE FIRST STEP you can take?

Less talk. More do. Because you deserve to achieve that one thing you’ve been dreaming of. And yes, you got this! (Click to tweet it out!)

Once you start that momentum going, there is no turning back!

"Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage." -- Dale Carnegie

Have a FAB week!

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P.S. If you want to learn more about Jenny McKaig’s ‘Become a Published Author’ course, you can go HERE. And, even MORE exciting, she’s very generously offering it to my community for a third of the regular price! If you are ready to take the leap, register HERE and use code BPACarol.

 

P.P.S. Even if it’s not a book, yet you have another idea or project that you are ready to take action on, I suggest you join me on the ‘Productive!’ bandwagon! My amazing coach and mentor, Shelagh Cummins, has created a concept and a workbook that will help you identify and take action on your power moves on a daily and weekly basis. If you are ready to achieve that BHAG (Big, Hairy, Audacious, Goal) this is your ticket! I already got my copy – and she has a Kickstarter campaign going on only until Sunday… with an awesome ‘Get One, Give One’ initiative. So whenever you buy one, another female entrepreneur in need will receive one! You are going to want to check this out!!!

And now I want to hear from YOU! What is that ONE thing that you are ready to take action on?!? I’d love to hear from you in the comments below. 

My birthday bucket list revealed!

My birthday bucket list revealed!

As many of you know, a few weeks ago I turned 35. Kinda a big deal for me! I love celebrating birthdays, however this year I’ll admit it made me feel a bit old. And so while I wanted to shy away and pretend it wasn’t happening, I am trying to embrace it!

To that end, I got excited about creating a birthday bucket list. 35 things I want to do in my 35th year.

Thank you to those of you who contributed to some of these ideas!

 

  1. Learn ‘Happy Friday’ in 12 different languages (one per month!)
  2. Plant a tree
  3. Learn the Rubik’s Cube
  4. Sign up for Dictionary.com and learn a new word every day
  5. Learn choreography for ‘Watch Me (Whip/Nae Nae)
  6. Go to a big concert
  7. Learn a song on the guitar
  8. Perform at an open mic night
  9. Cook 35 new recipes
  10. Send 35 letters using a wax seal
  11. Learn the first module in Dutch
  12. Host a themed dinner party
  13. Attend ‘The Move’ on a Friday night
  14. Go to a painting class
  15. Do a patio pub crawl
  16. Have a picnic in a park
  17. Go axe throwing
  18. Participate in a proper wine tasting course
  19. Complete a new running race (Colour Me Rad, perhaps?!?)
  20. Host a girls’ sleepover
  21. Visit a new country
  22. Go to an art exhibit
  23. Buy something expensive
  24. Apply to volunteer regularly at a shelter
  25. Make a new friend
  26. Go fencing
  27. Write a book
  28. Take a dance class
  29. Go skydiving
  30. Go on a solo hike deep into nature
  31. Learn how to fold a fitted sheet
  32. Read War and Peace
  33. Attend a poetry slam night
  34. Hold a Women Living BIG Full Day Live Event
  35. Go to a race track

 

Okay there you have it. Now you can hold me accountable!

And, I invite YOU to think about your own bucket list… birthday or otherwise. What are some things you would be excited about writing down on a list with an intention to be able to cross them off?!? (rest assured I will keep you posted as I go!) When are you going to do it?

 Have a FAB week, everyone!

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7 Ways to live big (or even BIGGER!) in 2016

7 Ways to live big (or even BIGGER!) in 2016

Ready to live BIG (or even BIGGER) this year? Here are 7 ways… and to make them easier to remember, they even spell out L.I.V.E. B.I.G.!

Learn something new every day.

The only way you’re going to escape the mediocrity trap, and live a bigger life, is if you’re constantly challenging yourself to grow. And one of the best ways you can grow is to ensure you’re learning new things all of the time.

It could be as simple as learning a new way to cut your morning piece of fruit, or as complex as choosing to learn a new language.

 

Ignite your passions.

 Do you love to dance? To sing? To have picnics in the park?

Perhaps you love exploring local coffee shops to find that perfect flat white.

Whatever you love to do, whatever makes your heart sing, do more of that this year.

Although there’s a lot of pressure to find your ‘purpose’ these days (I’ll be the first to admit I’m constantly striving to find it!), maybe we can alleviate some of that pressure. Instead of stressing over “finding your purpose”, focus on igniting your passions…the latter may even end up informing the former.

 Vibrate Positivity and Gratitude.

 Research states that the two most powerful human emotions are positivity and gratitude. Are you consciously practicing both of these?

It’s all too easy to focus on what you haven’t accomplished, or what you don’t have, instead of what you DO have! Get in the habit of sending out some positive and grateful vibes on a regular basis… and watch what happens!

Experience the Moments.

Life is made up of moments. And, are we too busy to fully appreciate them?

As Ferris Bueller says: “Life moves pretty fast, if you don’t stop and look around every once in a while, you could miss it!”

Don’t let 2016 pass you by. Take some time to truly be present to experience, indulge in, and cherish the moments.

Be even more you.

When was the last time you took yourself out on a date? Spend some time getting to know yourself even better this year. It may sound funny, but I honestly believe we don’t spend enough time with ourselves.

Enjoy your own company. Embrace your gifts, as well as your quirks. Don’t hide your idiosyncrasies, flaunt them! And stop trying to keep up with the Jones’… begin to love all that you are and all that you’re not.

 
Inspire Action (and get OUT of your comfort zone!)

How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. How do you take action towards what you really want? One step at a time. And yes, that may mean getting uncomfortable and even facing your fears.

Life really does begin at the edge of your comfort zone. Now there’s a reason why 85% of the population live in their comfort zones… it is, after all, comfortable! BUT, it’s not where the game of life really gets played.

Stretch yourself just a little bit more this year. Dare to try. Dare to fly. You might surprise yourself!

 
Give back; give big.

 “We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.” ~ Winston Churchill

It’s so true. Whether it’s with your time, your money, or your energy, give away a little of what you’ve got. It could be simply giving your friend or your significant other your full attention and a listening ear, or it could be volunteering your time on a regular basis to a cause that matters to you.

It’s important to think about what you want for you this year, yes… and yet it’s more fulfilling when you also think about what you want for others (plus you’ll end up getting more in return, trust me!)

 

So there you have it. Resolutions aside, goal-setter or no goal-setter, here are 7 ways to live even bigger this year. Make this year count. Make it one to remember. Make it BIG. (Click to tweet it out!)

 

Have a FAB week!

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P.S. If you are serious about living BIG this year, and are interested in applying to be a part of our Living BIG Inner Circle Mastermind, go HERE for more information.

 P.P.S. I will be in Nicaragua hosting a retreat this week, with limited access to email, so I’ll be replying to your messages and/or comments after Jan. 16th. Thanks for your understanding!

 

You’ll never be ready. AND, you’re as ready as you’ll ever be.

You’ll never be ready. AND, you’re as ready as you’ll ever be.

HAPPY FRIDAY!!!

I’ve got good news and bad news. Which would you like to hear first?

Let’s get the bad news out of the way.

You are NEVER going to be ready. For anything. 

What I mean is, you are never going to FEEL ready.

Whether it’s about starting that new workout regime, becoming a mother, saying goodbye to a loved one, or starting your own business… you are never going to be fully prepared. You are never going to have it all figured out. And you are never going to be without fears, doubts, or uncertainties.

It’s also never going to be the right time. Your ducks are never all going to be in a row, you are never going to have a big enough opening in your schedule, and your inbox is never going to be completely empty. (Side note: I have made a BIG effort over the past few weeks to get totally caught up on my emails and while I am not quite there yet, Im down to 82 in my inbox and only 11 unread ~ that is HUGE for me!!!)

Okay, now ready for the good news?!?

You are as ready as you’ll ever be. And as ready as you’ll ever need to be. For anything.

That’s right! Indeed you are ready NOW.

Perhaps that sounds like a bit of a contradiction? Maybe it is. And yet it’s true. You are never going to feel totally ready for anything, and so you’re as ready now as you’ll ever  be.

What does this mean?

You don’t need to wait until you are über confident in your skill set before applying for that job, know for sure that guy (or girl) you keep eyeing at Starbucks is going to say yes when you ask them out, or have all elements of your new project or initiative figured out before you launch.

We are never going to be 100% certain about anything. We will never be able to fully predict the successful outcome of our endeavours. And the perfect time to start will never magically arrive.

There is no point waiting to ‘feel’ ready. So it’s time to stop trying ~ because it’s just not going to happen!

John Maxwell said it best: “Nobody ever got ready by waiting. You only get ready by starting.” Stop waiting. Just start. You are ready NOW. (Click to tweet it out.)

So, what are you ready to start today, knowing you’re as ready as you’ll ever be?

Have a great week!!!

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And now I can’t help but be curious! What are you ready to start? Are you prepared to publicly commit (it makes it a whole lot more powerful!) I’d love to hear from you in the comments below.

And, if you know someone who could benefit from this article, please share the love!

P.S. If you think you are ready to do your first triathlon (a gentle one, mind you ~ with yoga, meditation, and a 5k run!) check it out here. There is a big group of #womenlivingBIG who will be partaking tomorrow… stay tuned for pics!!!