We all need a tribe. 5

Got a tribe? We all need one. 5 ways to find, or build, yours.


The number one desire of all human beings is the desire to belong… to something. A group, a crowd, a community.

We all want to know there are people that ‘get’ us. We want to know there are people who have our backs. We want to know there are people who will love us regardless of what we look like, what we’ve done, or what we’ve said.

‘Even leaders need a tribe.’

That was the opening line from Jayson Gaignard’s talk last night. I met him for the first time at Archangel Summit last week, learned so much, and so was pumped when I found out he was one of the speakers at TEPP (Toronto Entrepreneurs of Purpose and Passion) Talks yesterday evening.

We’re all leaders in our own way. And he’s right.

Forbes has named him one of the top networkers to watch, he’s the creator of MastermindTalks, and he’s had the likes of Tim Ferriss and Sir Richard Branson at his events.

He’s all about investing in relationships and building community.

And I LOVE community.

I love having my kinda peeps around me.

I thrive on the energy and positivity I get from having my kinda peeps around me. I feel my best, confident, ‘on’ self when I have my kinda peeps around me.

And I know I’m not alone.

I’ve written before about the importance of having a ‘Positive Peeps Posse,’ and today I want to expand on this idea, and offer five simple strategies for you to start finding, or building, your own tribe.


  1. Surround Yourself With Like-Minded People.

    As Oprah says, ‘Surround yourself only with those who lift you higher.’ This may mean putting yourself out there in new groups, doing a personal audit and getting honest with yourself, and it may mean having to let some people go. Sometimes it’s more important to subtract, then to add to your current network. You can’t go deep with everyone.

  1. Learn People’s Names.

    This goes a LONG way. (and for those of you who default to ‘I’m useless at remembering names!’ look up Dale Carnegie’s L.I.R.A. Technique… or ask me about it… no more excuses!) People who’ve listened to me speak are often amazed when I welcome everyone individually (well, if the group is under 50 at least!) from the stage, having introduced myself to them before I start and ensuring I’ve committed their name to memory. I do the same when I meet new people at events, on new sporting teams, or in my building. Trust me, it’s worth the effort.

  1. Be a Talent Scout.

    This is an idea Jayson shared. He believes amazing people become even more amazing over time. Pay attention to those rising stars out there. Observe, encourage, support.

  1. Look Up Dunbar’s Number.

    A new concept I learned only last week. It’s an idea based on research that states there are only so many people we can have in our inner circle, so many we can have meaningful relationships with, and so many we can sustain even any kind of friendship with at all. And, *NEWSFLASH!* 1,000 Facebook friends are NOT the same as 10 genuine friends! As Jayson shared: “We may be drowning in contacts, but we’re starving for deep connection.”

  1. Become a raving fan.

    A lot of my friends and family think I’m crazy to attend the amount of events and meetings and happenings as I do. Perhaps I am. However first of all I LOVE people, and moreover if it’s someone I want to champion, someone who has shown me support, or someone who I feel is putting themselves out there – I want to be there to cheer them on if I can. I can’t do it all of the time, but I do make a conscious effort to support as often as possible. It does make a difference. (and THANK YOU to all of my raving fans out there… I appreciate it more than you know!)


We all want to belong. We all need a positive peeps posse. We all need a tribe. (Click to tweet it out!)


Who is in YOUR tribe? And if you don’t have one yet, who is one person you’d like in yours? Perhaps you may even want to reach out to them today!

Have a FAB week!


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P.S. (I know, I know, I’ve had a few P.S.’s recently ~ and while I don’t want to taint my reputation for simply bringing a little Happy Friday inspiration each week, it would be remiss of me NOT to mention the fact that TOMORROW IS THAT LAST DAY FOR EARLY BIRD TICKETS TO WOMEN LIVING BIG – LIVE!!! Get ON it already!


P.P.S. My AMAZING videographer, Warren Leppik of Cognition Productions, created this awesome (although I know I’m kinda biased!) promo video… check it out HERE! I’d love to hear your thoughts!



And NOW, as I’m all about taking ACTION, what is ONE of the strategies you are committing to implementing this week? I’d love to hear from you in the comments below.

What are you in the relentless pursuit of?

Carol Schulte's week

I had the honour and privilege of being one of over 1,000 delegates chosen to attend TEDx Toronto at The Royal Conservatory of Music yesterday. WOW… what a day. It was my first time attending, however I am pretty certain it will not be my last.

The lights went down in Koerner Hall at precisely 11:00am, and when they came up again we were delighted, dazzled, and completely amazed by the entire Toronto Symphony Orchestra performing Ravel’s Boléro. I got present pretty fast, and knew I was in for a treat.

The day unfolded with one inspiring and impressive talk after another, sprinkled with performances by Choir!Choir!Choir! (who actually had us all standing up and joining in their enthusiastic rendition of Patti Smith’s ‘Because the Night’… SO fun!), Maylee Todd, and the entertainment of amazing host Drew Dudley.

Relentless Pursuits. That was the theme.

From the program: “We are driven by our pursuits. They are the ideas, goals and dreams in our lives that we commit to which are greater than ourselves, fueled by a passion, dedication and the burning desire to achieve. Our relentless pursuits engage us and provide us with intense focus to improve the experience of tomorrow. They are the manifestation of our ideas in action and give us the uncompromising determination to venture into the unknown. Relentless pursuits feed our curiosity of the world, and present worthwhile challenges that bring meaning to our lives….”

It would be impossible for me to share the essence, ideas, and messages from each of the 14 speakers – and yet each deserve accolades – as their own relentless pursuits are incredibly inspiring to say the least.

A little taste: 

Keith Vanderlinde, cosmologist at The University of Toronto, spent a year operating the South Pole telescope ~ in -100 degree weather ~ where for months on end he would never see the sun. “Through exploring beyond your comfort zone, you find yourself.”

Rachel Parent, 15-year old founder of Kids Right to Know; is on mission to fight for GMO labels to become a law in Canada. “My message is simple: Just label it.”

Sabrina Jalees, super talented comedian and actor, through her journey of coming out on stage, is all about owning the things that make you different. “By being proud of who I was, I realized I could change lives.”

John Cruickshank, Publisher of the Toronto Star and President of the Star Media Group, is committed to improving civic engagement and democratic vitality. “80% of life is showing up. So how do we get Canada to show up?”

Nav Bhatia, known as the official Raptor’s Superfan, is dedicated to changing the perception of not only Sikhs, but all people, in Canada. “If there is heaven on this Earth, it’s right here in Canada.”

Dr. Margot Taylor, Director of Functional Neuroimaging at the Hospital for Sick Children, shared some of her impressive research looking at cognitive development and frontal lobe functions of PTSD patients. “What questions are you being asked, that you are too scared to answer?”

And that isn’t even half of the speakers…

I’m not going to lie. I was not only extremely humbled, but also challenged to look at what Relentless Pursuits I am dedicated to in my own life. Still pondering on that one… however right now I am dedicated to helping people realize they are capable of pursuing whatever relentless pursuits they may desire.

It was an amazing day filled with ideas worth spreading, and therefore ideas worth sharing with you.

What are your relentless pursuits? In our getting curious, asking questions, and taking action on our ideas, indeed we can change the world. Click to tweet it out!

Have a FAB week, everyone!

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What is your reaction to the idea of Relentless Pursuits? What is YOUR relentless pursuit? I want to hear from you in the comments below!