10 Things You Should Never Apologize For
I’m fortunate enough to be away again, on our annual family vacation. Yes I am fortunate indeed. I didn’t share this last week as I didn’t want to admit it. I almost felt I needed to apologize for it. And yet, do I have to be sorry for the many blessings I have?
Do I, or do you, ever over apologize?
Canadians often get a lot of flack for saying ‘I’m sorry.’ I used to get a lot of flack for saying it. Sometimes I still do. And yet I’m realizing while there are lots of moments when apologizing is appropriate, there are many instances when it is not.
Here are ten things you should never have to apologize for.
Never apologize for being yourself.
I spent a lot of time growing up trying to be someone or something I wasn’t. I wanted to please. I wanted to belong. I wanted approval. Sometimes I still do. And yet you are only ever going to be the best in the world at being yourself. And no, you should never have to apologize for that.
Never apologize for feeling happy. Or sad. Or however you may be feeling.
When others around us are down, it may be hard to be the happy one. And when you’re the one having a bad day, a bad week, or a bad month; you may be worried you’re bringing others down. Enough with the guilt already! One should never apologize for how they are feeling.
Never apologize for wanting more.
Not everyone dreams big dreams. Not everyone desires more. That doesn’t mean you can’t. And no, that doesn’t necessarily mean you are not happy with where you are or what you have. It just means you don’t wish to stay stagnant. You want to continue to learn, to grow, to stretch. And don’t worry if those around you don’t feel the same way.
Never apologize for where you’ve come from.
I remember an epiphany I had when volunteering in Calcutta… I realized the only difference between me and the people I met on the street without homes was the fact I happened to be born into the family I was, in Canada, and they happened to be born into the family they were, in India. Is it right or fair? No. I spent a lot of time feeling guilty and depressed. And yet I can’t help where I come from. At the same time, I should also never take it for granted.
Never apologize for what you have.
It’s hard to enjoy what you may have been given when you are too busy feeling guilty, or undeserving of it all. And apologizing doesn’t do any good either. So instead of apologizing, appreciate. Be grateful. And then give back to those less fortunate with what you’ve been given.
Never apologize for anyone else.
You can only take responsibility for yourself and your actions; no one else’s. So focus on what you can change and take ownership on ~ yourself ~ and ignore what is not yours to own.
Never apologize for saying no.
It’s hard to do… especially for you people pleasers. And yet saying no sometimes means saying yes to something more important. We all have our own needs and priorities, and they must come first. And sometimes that means saying no. No apologies necessary.
Never apologize for your idiosyncrasies or imperfections.
Our quirks and imperfections are what make us unique. They are what make you you. And if someone has a problem with one or more, it’s their problem, not yours. Those who mind don’t matter; those who matter don’t mind.
Never apologize for being honest or speaking your mind.
Unless you are going out of your way to hurt somebody, the old adage is true: honesty is the best policy. You don’t need permission to share your thoughts and ideas. You shouldn’t apologize for wanting to share your truth.
Never apologize for taking ‘me’ time.
I need it, you need it, everybody needs it. And it only allows us to look after everyone around us even more effectively. No, it’s not being selfish, it’s being self-full. Don’t apologize for taking me time, rather embrace it.
Sometimes it’s right to say I’m sorry, and sometimes it’s not. Are you over apologizing anywhere in your life? (Click to tweet it out.)
It’s time to get back to the family. And then back to the beach. I’m extremely appreciative for what I have. But I’m not going to apologize for it.
Have a FAB week, everyone!
Where are YOU perhaps over apologizing in your life? Do you have other ideas of things you should never have to apologize for? I’d love to hear from you in the comments below.
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