A Year Older, A Year Bolder: The Birthday Girl’s Guide to Letting Go.

Happy Friday!

Yesterday marked another birthday for me. 🎉

And while a day traditionally steeped in reflection, historically it’s been shadowed by thoughts like, “I can’t believe I’m ___ years old and haven’t accomplished x, y, and z! ” or “What have I really done with my life? ” and “This is not at all where I was supposed to be at this age! ” Funnily enough, I’ve been echoing these thoughts since I was 19. And quite frankly, it’s getting old!

They say life truly begins at forty. Well, I’ve always been a bit of a late bloomer! So, now that I’m a few years into my fab forties, I’m ready to hit my stride and come into my own.

Sure, expectations and reality may not quite align. My journey has been anything but a straight line to where I envisioned myself. But I’m finally starting to believe I’m exactly where I need to be. Moreover, I’m choosing all the parts of my story — the ups, the downs, and the unexpected twists and turns in between.

There is so much power in choosing what is.

This year, my mantra is all about ‘letting go,’ inspired by this incredible poem by Safire Rose:

She let go.

She let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go.

She let go of the fear.

She let go of the judgments.

She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head.

She let go of the committee of indecision within her.

She let go of all the ‘right’ reasons.

Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry, she just let go.

She didn’t ask anyone for advice.

She didn’t read a book on how to let go.

She didn’t search the scriptures.

She just let go.

She let go of all of the memories that held her back.

She let go of all of the anxiety that kept her from moving forward.

She let go of the planning and all of the calculations about how to do it just right.

She didn’t promise to let go.

She didn’t journal about it.

She didn’t write the projected date in her Day-Timer.

She made no public announcement and put no ad in the paper.

She didn’t check the weather report or read her daily horoscope.

She just let go.

She didn’t analyze whether she should let go.

She didn’t call her friends to discuss the matter.

She didn’t do a five-step Spiritual Mind Treatment.

She didn’t call the prayer line.

She didn’t utter one word.

She just let go.

No one was around when it happened.

There was no applause or congratulations.

No one thanked her or praised her.

No one noticed a thing.

Like a leaf falling from a tree, she just let go.

There was no effort.

There was no struggle.

It wasn’t good and it wasn’t bad.

It was what it was, and it is just that.

In the space of letting go, she let it all be.

A small smile came over her face.

A light breeze blew through her.

And the sun and the moon shone forevermore…

It’s truly time to let go.

It’s also time to celebrate all that I am, and all that I’m not; all that I have, all that I don’t… and everything still to come!

So, 43, I’m ready for you! Bring it on I say. I’m not just getting older — I’m getting braver and bolder. And I have a feeling it’s gonna be a good one. ✨


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Carol Schulte

Carol is a published author, has been featured in numerous magazines and podcasts, and is a returning guest expert on Rogers TV. Having lived and worked in 16 countries including Ashrams in India and vans in New Zealand, rocked dreadlocks in Thailand and shaved her head for breast cancer, she certainly walks her talk and brings a global perspective to all she does. When she’s not traveling or speaking on stage, you can find her volunteering as a bereavement facilitator, training for her next triathlon, or practicing her serious carpool karaoke game.

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