Did you know the average person, over the span of their lifetime, will spend roughly 653 hours waiting for trains or at bus stops, 6 months waiting in line, and 22 weeks on hold for various call centre?
Now thatâ€™s a LOT of time waiting!
Although we could, perhaps, simply order groceries on line, or hire assistants to help take care of some of those Rogers customer service calls. However, for the most part a lot of this type of waiting is out of our control.
And then thereÂ is another type of waiting we do. A type of waiting so many of us indulge in that is very much in our control. And in my opinion, this type of waiting is far more dangerous, and can take up significantly MORE of our time.
This is the type of waiting we do when weâ€™re not taking action towards our goals and dreams.
This is the type of waiting that keeps us stagnant, keeps us within our comfort zone, keeps us playing small.
This is the type of waiting we do when weâ€™re waiting for â€˜the perfect timeâ€™, waiting to feel â€˜good enoughâ€™ orâ€™ readyâ€™, waiting for â€˜all of our ducks to be in a rowâ€™…
I believe far too many people spend far too much time in THIS kind of waiting. And I believe itâ€™s preventing us from living the life we know we want and deserve to live.
Youâ€™ve heard of Dr. Suess, yes? Although he writes brilliant books for kids ~ theyâ€™re also brilliant books for us â€˜kidsâ€™ of all ages. And in one of my fave books â€˜Oh the Places Youâ€™ll Goâ€™ (which has been on a list as one of the best business books of all time, I might add), he speaks about â€˜The Waiting Place.â€™Â…for people just waiting. Waiting for a train to go or a bus to come, or a plane to go or the phone to ring, or the snow to snow or waiting around for a yes or no or waiting for their hair to grow. Everyone is just waiting…
So now WHY is everyone in this place simply waiting?!?
I think it comes down to THREE things.
We all have it. Itâ€™s human nature. So the question becomes, what are we going to do about it?
First of all, we need to recognize it. Sometimes itâ€™s a sneaky one ~ and disguises itself as excuses or procrastination. I donâ€™t have the time. I donâ€™t have the money. I first have to get through X, complete Y…
Learn to recognize when the excuse is valid. Sometimes we really do have a personal situation or an important project on the go that really does require our full attention. And sometimes, itâ€™s our fear. Fear of failure. Fear of not being good enough. Fear of â€˜being found outâ€™ (imposter syndrome anyone?!?). Fear of success… the list goes on.
2. Lack of skills/training
Sometimes this certification or that qualification is required before we can go after what we really want to do. Okay, great! So find out what you may need, because at least you can do something about that…
3. Our thoughts and beliefs
At the end of the day, it really does come down to our mindset.
You see, we can get any number of certifications, degrees… attend any number of seminars or personal development programs to learn how to break through our fears. And yet, if we donâ€™t actually BELIEVE we can achieve whatever it is we really want deep down, we never will.
Hereâ€™s the truth folks. When it comes to fear ~ well, it â€˜aint going anywhere any time soon. Even the Richard Bransonâ€™s and the Tony Robbinsâ€™ of the world feel fear… itâ€™s TRUE! When it comes to skills/training ~ indeed we may need to get that credential or certification or build a certain skillset. When it comes to our thoughts and beliefs, however ~ we have a CHOICE.
We need to first BELIEVE we can achieve. Once we learn how to take control of our thoughts and beliefs around what weâ€™re capable of, well, weâ€™ll figure out the how. Weâ€™ll find out what skills we need and weâ€™ll work through the fear. And then, well, nothing can stop us.
If you believe in you, I believe youâ€™ll be able to achieve anything and everything you want out of life. (Click to tweet it out!)
So, ready to learn WHAT thoughts and beliefs may be holding you back, keeping you in â€˜The Waiting Placeâ€™, and HOW to break free from them?
I think Iâ€™ve gone on long enough for today… so you better stay tuned for next week!
Have a FAB week, everyone!
What are your thoughts on living in â€˜The Waiting Placeâ€™? Have you been there? Are you maybe there now? What are you doing, or have you done, to help break free?
Iâ€™d love to hear from you in the comments below :-).