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And happy Feb. 1st ~ the first of a new month! A â€˜perfectâ€™ day to bring up the theme I would like to discuss. Imperfection. And more specifically, imperfect action.
There have been times in my life where I will admit I have been a bit of a perfectionist. And if Iâ€™m honest, I still sometimes get those perfectionist tendencies. But see, hereâ€™s the thing. Perfection is an ideal that just doesn’t exist. I mean really, what is perfect, anyway?
Well, I looked it up in the dictionary (the on-line version, anyway — out of curiosity, does anyone still have the real book version?!?)
Here is what comes up:
Perfect [adj., n. pur-fikt; v. per-fekt]
- entirely without any flaws, defects, or shortcomings
- conforming absolutely to the description or definition of an ideal type
- accurate, exact, or correct in every detail
- exactly fitting the need in a certain situation or for a certain purpose
- excellent or complete beyond practical or theoretical improvement
I donâ€™t know about you, but it seems a pretty tall order to achieve any of these definitions. (entirely without any flaws, defects, or shortcomings?!?) Especially when it comes to something we want to create, the job we are hoping to land, the regular workout routine we want to stick to, the loving relationship we are striving for. How can anything when it comes to real peopleâ€™s actions and behaviors be without any flawsâ€¦ I mean weâ€™re all human after all, right? Of course we are going to make mistakes every now and again. Itâ€™s how we learn. And quite frankly, life would be pretty boring if everyone had everything figured out at all times.
And so, instead of aiming for perfection â€“ which will inevitably evoke disappointment anyhow – letâ€™s instead be okay with a little bit of imperfection.
When I was doing my yoga teacher training, one of the big posters hanging on the wall, staring at us as we held our focused gaze in all those warrior and tree poses, read â€˜you are a concern for looking good.â€™ I didnâ€™t want to believe it at first, but I had an epiphany one day when I realized that, in fact, I was exactly that. And moreover, one of the big reasons I was striving for perfection, was because I wanted to look good, and I was scared of looking bad. Well, that fear caused what some have termed perfectionist paralysis. Instead of trying something on â€“ be it an idea, a job, a business venture â€“ if I wasnâ€™t sure it would be perfect, I wouldnâ€™t do it. Which meant I played it safe, and I played it small.
Well, folks, I am ready to step out of the safe zone and play it big.
Today I am taking an imperfect step.
I’ve been creating a happy friday blog for a little while now ~ something I have wanted to do for a LONG time, but scared to go through with it in case it wasnâ€™t perfect. Well it is CERTAINLY NOT perfect, nor will it ever be! But, well, I’m going to share it with the world anyway.
Imperfection action is always better than perfect inaction.
So, please, take a peak around! And I welcome your feedback… itâ€™s in the early stages, but we all have to start somewhere, right?!?
Have a FAB week, everyone!