You may recall the story of Oliver Twist.
And more specifically, do you remember the part where young Oliver, still ravished after his first small bowl of oatmeal gruel, innocently asks in his lovely little boy British accent:
“Please, Sir, I want some more…”
Well, he was not met with a positive response, and in fact was thrown out of the workhouse as a result!
Poor guy… (I actually had to refresh my memory with the story, and it turns out because all of the boys were starving, decided they would choose one boy to speak out and ask for seconds… and Oliver was the unlucky winner of the lottery!)
Now in this case, he wanted more because he was truly starving.
But why is it we almost always seem to want more?
When is anything ever going to be enough?
And is more even better?
I’m asking myself these same questions as I pose them to you.
Because the truth is, I often find myself with a feeling of wanting more. Or automatically focusing on what I don’t yet have.
And I know I’m not alone!
A few days ago I was having a lovely conversation with a special family friend, who is somewhat limited with what she and her husband are able to do, due to the fact he is in a wheelchair.
And while she was sharing it’s tough not to always be able to do the things she wants to do, not even a moment later she wisely stated:
“But I’m happy with what we have.”
Yes! Gratitude and appreciation for what we actually have right here, right now. It made me smile big.
A few nights ago I was at a fireside chat for female entrepreneurs. And I had a lovely conversation with one of the panelists – who not only has a very successful business, is also very humble and happens to be a friend and generous mentor. She was wanting to congratulate me on some of the things I’ve been up to recently, to which I replied ‘Yeah, but, I’m not ____ yet. I’m not doing _x_ yet. I haven’t figured out _y_.
She quickly responded by saying, ‘but maybe you have!’ And maybe you do!’ Then she brought up the word insatiable, and began to challenge me on it.
In a follow up chat, she wisely said it’s okay to be insatiable, ‘just as long as you give yourself permission to live your current life just as it is, just as you are.’
WOW. I needed to hear those words.
I’m aware this idea is not a new one, however it’s an important one.
And as with all important ideas, they deserve repeating in different ways.
It’s okay to be ambitious. It’s okay to want to grow. It’s okay to have goals.
But not if you can’t also be happy with where you are now.
It’s often too easy and too tempting to look at where we want to be, or what may be missing from where we are, instead of focusing on being grateful and celebrating what we’ve got.
This week I’ve had some pretty big successes, and yet before I really gave myself an opportunity to take them all in, I’m already looking ahead to what’s next!
And how will we ever be truly fulfilled or satisfied if we live that way?!?
More is not always better.
I think it’s time for a little shift in perspective.
So, I have a few questions for you to answer this week:
- When was the last time you made a gratitude list? If you can’t remember the last time, perhaps it’s about time!
- What is one thing happening in your life right now worth celebrating?
- What would it mean to ‘give yourself permission to live your current life just as it is, just as you are?’
I’d love to hear from you in the comments below.
Perhaps in the case of oatmeal gruel, we would want more (they must have been REALLY hungry!)
But when it comes to most other things we’re continually chasing, maybe more isn’t always better.
Have a FAB week!