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This ‘C’ word may be scary, but it’s also a game changer.

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This past weekend, while huddling under our club tent from the rain, despite the fact I was dripping and shivering, I also couldn’t help but be inspired. 

Athletes from all walks of life – all shapes and sizes and ages (there was an impressive  78-year-old in the mix!) were competing at the Toronto Triathlon Festival. 

Watching many of them cross the finish line was pretty magical.

It was fun to be a part of it as a volunteer, and, it also made me realize I’m ready to up my game. 

And in order to do that, I need to bring the big scary ‘C’ word into my vocabulary. Because when you do, it becomes real. 

Check out this week’s video to see what word I’m talking about! And find out why this single word is truly a game changer. 

So now I’m curious. What is something in your life you are no longer willing to put off? And what are you going to do NOW to change that? 

I look forward to hearing from you in the comments below.

Have a FAB day!

Life will never be the same: An insider view at Unleashing the Power Within

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Picture this. Over 9,000 people jumping and dancing and waving our arms in the air, while singing and screaming ‘Life will never be the same…’ at like, a level 50 on a scale of 10.

You forget you’re in an unbearably cold arena (it’s kept at a near freezing temperature on purpose… they even give out gloves as a bit of a joke in our welcome bag!) and the lights and lasers start flashing like you’re at a Lady Gaga concert. Except it’s Tony Robbins up there on stage, banging up a storm on his drum sticks to the beat like his life depended on it. His energy was palpable. 

‘MAKE YOUR MOVE!’ he’d scream, and the entire arena in unison would strike a power move. 

‘Say yes!’ ‘YES!’ We’d yell in reply while making a fist punch in the air. 

You really couldn’t help but get into it. 

Now I know people have mixed emotions when it comes to this giant (literally) of a man, but there is no denying he BRINGS it. And he truly is brilliant at what he does. 

Beyond the ridiculous amounts of jumping and dancing, the firewalk (yes, we walked on fire!), the surprise concert on the last night with Jennifer Hudson, there was also tons of valuable content and takeaways. 

We learned about the six human needs that drive all behavior. 

We explored the three ways we can immediately (and powerfully) change our state. 

And we went through a powerful transformational exercise that left the majority of us in tears, and our limiting beliefs behind us. 

Here were my biggest takeaways:

Throw on your dancing shoes!

I’ve taken on a new ritual of morning dance parties. 

And they actually are quite powerful!

First of all, you can’t help but get excited and bust out a smile when you’re shaking those hips. Even if it’s a small shimmy in your seat, you end up changing what he refers to as your ‘state.’ 

If you want to change your mood, your state, there are 1 of 3 ways you can do it. (Do all three and you’re golden.)

1   Change your physiology (strike a pose or move your body)

2   Change your focus (shift the thoughts in your mind)

3   Change your language (replace the words you’re using to talk        to yourself)

The quickest of the three is to change your physical state. Hence, the dance parties! You can also strike a power pose, run on the spot, or even shift your posture to a more open stance. 

Try it now and see what it does!

There’s a reason why he had us on our feet so often during the sometimes 14 hour long days! Somehow with the music going, your legs jumping and your arms waving, you can’t help but find the energy within.  

Stop thinking your fears make you special. 

Ever had a thought around the idea of ‘not being enough?’

Me too. 

Well, it turns out you and I are not unique or special at all!

There are two primary fears that ALL human beings share, even though there are numerous variations. 

I am not enough

I won’t be loved 

Once we realise fear has been hard wired in all human beings, we can surrender to the fact it’s not going anywhere anytime soon. So, we need to learn how to dance with our fear. How to take it along for the ride. How to take massive action towards what we truly want to create in spite of this fear.

Fulfilment comes through progress.

There are two skills we need to master if we want to live an extraordinary life:

1   The Science of Achievement

2   The Art of Fulfilment 

With hard work and drive and dedication we can figure out the science of achievement. However mastering the art of fulfilment is a different ballgame.

No doubt you’ve had the experience where you finally reach your goal, you finally get the job, the raise, or the house. Or you run across the finish line of a race. And that feeling of elation and accomplishment lasts for how long? A few minutes? Longer if you’re lucky, but if it was just the goal you were after, chances are you’ll be off chasing the next one before you know it. 

The only way to experience happiness, to experience true fulfilment, is to experience progress. To stretch. To grow. To get out of your comfort zone and make moves towards your dreams each and every day. 

So start dancing. Stop letting your fears grab hold of you. And keep making progress towards your dreams.

The two most powerful exercises for me included envisioning what our life would look like 5, 10, and then 20 years from now if we held onto our limiting beliefs. It did not look pretty! And on the last day, we envisioned what our life would look like if we DID go after what we really wanted. Far more enticing!

Now I may have drunk the kool-aid, I may still be on a high, but I’m choosing to take on the idea that life will never be the same. Why not? It’s a choice we can all make today. What do we have to lose? 

Today is the first day of the rest of your life. 

Make it count!

Why it’s time to be ALL IN.

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As you read this blog post, I’m currently ‘Unleashing The Power Within!’ with Tony Robbins in Chicago!

That’s right, I’ll be in the middle of what they say is an incredibly intense 4-day program, and no doubt fully immersed in the action, dancing up a storm, and trying to soak it all in. 

Now I’m definitely excited and open, and yet I also want to ensure I go into this experience without too many expectations. And at the same time, I want to ensure I’m fully present, and go ALL IN for whatever is supposed to unfold.

I remember listening to a motivational speaker years ago share wisdom he received from an old pop can: ‘No deposit, no return.’ And it’s true. What you put into something, is what you’ll get out of something.

Unfortunately, however, being the humans that we are, it’s not always easy to detach from expectations. And with the busy-ness of life, it’s also challenging to be ALL IN on whatever we’re doing, and whoever we’re with, considering the crazy number of distractions competing for our time and attention.

Yet when we do, we experience greater fulfillment, greater success, and greater JOY!

When you drop expectation, and you commit to being ALL IN, anything is possible. 

Here are three areas of your life where you can be all in, and the difference that it will make.

1. Be all when when it comes to the task at hand. 

In the book ‘Deep Work’ by Cal Newport, he talks about the power of focusing on going deep in one area of work, on one important task, and being ruthlessly disciplined in eliminating distractions. When you go deep, you move forward.

In this age of distraction we live in, it’s growing increasingly difficult to retain our focus on one thing – and as a result we spend a lot of our time doing ‘surface level’ work. And jumping from one menial task to another. 

When you’re able to be ALL IN on the work you’re doing, and with each and every specific task, you will no doubt produce some pretty powerful work. Not to mention get a lot more satisfaction while you’re at it.

2. Be all in when it comes to the person you’re with.

I hope you’ve experienced what it’s like to speak with someone who makes you feel as though you are the most important person in the room. It’s pretty darn powerful. And YOU have the opportunity to be that for someone else, too.

When you are fully engaged with the person you’re speaking to, giving them your full attention, and treating them as though they are the only thing that matters in that moment, you make them feel important. And people always remember how you make them feel.

Not only will you get noticed and stand out, your connection, trust, and overall relationships will deepen and become even more meaningful.

3. Be all in when it comes to the present moment. 

I know, I’ve spoken about this before ~ as have so many. The power of now. It’s not always easy, but there is a reason why yoga and mediation and any kind of mindfulness is all the rage right now.

The majority of people spend time feeling guilty about the past – which is over – or anxious about the future – which has not yet arrived. 

However the true power of experiencing life can only come from living in this present moment. And that is the only place where real joy can truly exist. 

Can you imagine what your life would look when you choose to be ALL IN when it comes to your work, your conversations and relationships, and this present moment?

I’m guessing even more powerful, fulfilling, and joyful than it is right now.

That is living BIG, and that is what you deserve.

Have a FAB week!

P.S. If you’re ready BE ALL IN when it comes to your work, your relationships, or another area of your life, let’s TALK! 

Here to make an impact? Get over yourself already.

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Confession time. 

Over the weekend I almost, kinda, had a ‘woe is me’ moment. 

It was the long weekend, and everyone and their dog seemed to be escaping the city for a fun getaway or good times up at the cottage. 

And I was ‘stuck’ at home. 

Boo hoo. 

(enter the almost, kinda, ‘woe is me’ moment!)

As it turns out, I ended up having a pretty amazing weekend.

A few of us went over to Toronto Island and went stand up paddleboarding followed by a lovely picnic. And the next day we had a great day with some pool party action followed by a delicious BBQ with family and friends. 

If only I realised in the moment just how much fun I was having.

If only I didn’t get caught in the comparison trap. 

If only I wasn’t making it all about me. 

You see the problem is, we can get a little too self-consuming.

We’re worried about not doing enough, not making enough, not having enough, not contributing enough, not being good enough…

We want to make a difference, and an impact, and yet we’re too caught up in our own ‘stuff.’

And the irony is, even though we want to make it about others, we’re making it more about us!

If we truly are going to make the difference we are here to make, we need to get over ourselves already!

So, how are we going to solve it? 

Start recognising it’s less about us, and more about the people we want to impact. 

You can’t make it about YOU if you’re here to make a difference. 

And you’ll start moving forward when you choose to be ready to make that difference. 

And I’m pretty sure that’s what you’re here to do. 

So here are three ways to get you started.

1. Identify what impact you want to make. 

It may sound trite, but it’s a terrifying world out there. Now I gave up reading the news regularly a while ago, but you don’t have to look very far or wide to acknowledge all of the injustices, atrocities, tragedies, sickness, and sadness that is all around us. 

It may be overwhelming to know what to do, and where to start. 

Start by recognising the gifts you have to bring, and who – what group of people – is going to benefit the most. 

Are you a horse whisperer? Are you amazing with children? Do you have a knack for solving complicated logistical challenges?

Whether it’s working with the UN, serving food to the homeless, or cleaning up the streets, choose what cause, or what population, you want to impact. What do you care about? What are you passionate about? Start there. 

2. Make your impact more important than your insecurities

It’s scary to put ourselves out there in an bigger way. To put a stake in the ground. To declare what it is you want to do here with the time we have on this planet.

I’ll be the first to admit I get stuck in feeling not ready, not good enough,  not you-fill-in-the-blank here on a regular basis. And, I’m a work in progress! I have to constantly remind myself I have to get over myself if I’m really here to make an impact. 

3. Start Small 

It’s a little too daunting to think we can eradicate poverty or cancer or war overnight. 

And, it’s too foolish to think we can’t make a dent in anything at all. We can. You can. 

So choose the cause/population/person you want to make an impact on, and identify ONE SMALL THING you could do, starting today. 

Maybe it’s picking up garbage while you run. Or giving subway fare to the next homeless person you see, so they can get to a shelter. Perhaps it’s making time to listen to a friend in need. 

Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has. ~  Margaret Mead

I’m human. You’re human. We’re human. 

We’re going to have fears, doubts, insecurities. 

And so I’m inviting you to be brave.

Brave enough to admit you are here to make an impact. Brave enough to choose the impact over your insecurities. And brave enough to take the first small, imperfect, step today. 

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And then I want to hear what you’re committing to in the comments below.

Have a FAB week!

Wanna live bigger? Start smaller.

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I’m finally back into a regular routine of working on my book. 

It’s a bit of a love-hate relationship to be honest! As it can be with many creative endeavours we face.

I mean, when I’m into it, and it’s flowing, I love it. But boy is it tough to stay disciplined on a daily basis! (if you can relate, I HIGHLY recommend Steven Pressfield’s book, The War of Art ~ he talks about how resistance shows up when facing any creative work. And more importantly, how to bust through it!)

What’s interesting to notice, is that as I’m changing and evolving with each new experience, it, too, is changing and evolving. 

And while the over-arching theme is still the same ~ how to live your biggest life ~ what is shifting is what it truly means to live big. 

As you know, I’m all for creating epic experiences (I mean, I’ve shaved my head, lived in an Ashram in India as well as with a man in a van in New Zealand, even said yes to a dare to go bungee jumping in my birthday suit!) yet I’m realizing it’s not necessarily those moments that truly make up a big life. 

And I think that’s where so many of us go wrong. 

The truth is, the majority of life takes place in the small moments. 

And I’m discovering living big is about finding ways to fully experience these smaller moments.

It’s about changing the way we view the seemingly or potentially insignificant moments in our life that can make the biggest difference. 

Living Big, Starting Small. 

That is the working title of my book.

Although I love having lofty goals, and making big things happen, it can also be very daunting to start. 

Which is why the majority of people often never do!

If you put ‘write a book’ on your to-do list, it will NEVER get done!

However if you write ‘reach out to X friend who has written a book to ask how they started’, or ‘schedule 30 mins in calendar to brainstorm potential themes/titles’ you are far more likely to do it!

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Yesterday, I had lunch with one of my oldest and dearest girlfriends. 

We decided to squeeze it in last minute, and although it wasn’t a ‘fancy’ lunch per say (healthy grocery store salad bar) and I almost felt guilty for taking time out for lunch when I had so much other work to do, it was exactly what I needed. We were present, the conversation was rich and juicy, and it left us both on a high.

It was a living BIG moment.

Moreover, it reminded me what living BIG, to me, is all about. Enjoying the so-called small moments. Because that turns them into big moments. And that’s how you’ll begin to live bigger. 

Ready to create more ‘living big’ moments in your life?

Here are three easy ways you can start today. 

1. Define what living BIG means to you

When I work with female professionals, leaders, and entrepreneurs, it’s often the go-getters and the high achievers that feel the least fulfilled. And, they are the ones that rarely take the time to celebrate how far they’ve come, or allow themselves to feel successful or happy exactly where they are. 

One of the exercises I have them complete is to define what success means to them. What happiness means to them. All too often we’re chasing something that we think we should be chasing, when in fact it may not even be important to us at all. Or, it may already be right in front of us. 

So, what does living BIG mean to you? You may discover you’re already doing it.

2. Choose ONE area of your life where you want to live bigger 

Again, living BIG is going to mean something different for everyone. And yet a part of it means living fully self expressed. Living life on your terms, creating the life you desire and deserve to live. 

And it’s all possible, one area at a time. 

Do you want to be more present with your friends and family? Start an exercise regime? Adopt a morning routine? Launch a side hustle? Get rid of your debt? 

Choose one area. Get super clear on what your ideal, 10/10 life would look like in that area.

3.  Identify your first, small step

So you’ve chosen the area you’re ready to tackle. WAY TO GO! And now, let’s break it down. 

Let’s say you choose to adopt a morning routine. You want to get up 30 minutes earlier than normal so you can squeeze in a workout. Great!

What is your first small step? Perhaps it’s setting your morning alarm earlier. Maybe it’s setting your bedtime alarm earlier. Or it could be to ask your friend to be your accountability buddy and commit to going on a run together, or to choose what activity or exercise you want to do, or buy new running shoes. 

Whatever it is, identify it, own it, and COMMIT to making it happen!

Today is all we have. And it just so happens to be the first day of the rest of your life. 

SO, what are you going to do about it?!?

Living big really is all about starting small. And momentum builds from there. 

So, how can you start living bigger, by starting smaller, today? 

I want to hear from you in the comments below!

 

 

 

 

 

 

P.S. If you are ready to make small, but serious changes in order to live your biggest life, let’s TALK!

Don’t Let These Bravery Killers Get You!

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They (whoever ‘they’ are!) say confidence is one of the most attractive things you can wear. And it’s true. 

Some people just seem to have ‘it’ naturally. 

The X factor, the gravitas, the ‘je ne sais quoi’ that makes them stand out in any room. The thing that makes them unafraid to take risks and make things happen. 

It’s not competence, folks. It’s confidence. 

AND, even more than that, it’s about being BRAVE. And it’s available to all of us.

In preparation for my upcoming talk at SHRM next week (I’m delivering a mega session to 2000 people… EEK!) I’ve been doing more research recently about confidence and bravery ~ what it is, what it isn’t, what kills it, and what builds it. 

I came across an amazing book, The Confidence Code, written by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman, who share some incredible insights. 

It turns out both nature AND nurture affect our confidence. 

Some fascinating research exists on the fact women and men’s brains are actually wired differently, we produce different hormones, and we each have an individual genetic make-up – and all of these play a role in terms of how confident we are naturally.

And, there are also thoughts and behaviours that are learned through our experiences, upbringing, and society. (Did you know that in a Harvard study looking at gender effects on performance, girls who had to write out their gender on a math test before completing it, performed more poorly than those who did not have to write it out?!? Crazy!)

There are also ‘bravery killers.’ And that’s where I want to dive into today. Because, as it turns out, I’m noticing some of my own bravery killers that I admittedly employ on perhaps too regular of a basis.

Perfectionism 


A study showed that women want to have approximately 85-95% of the qualifications on a job requirement before submitting an application. Versus men, who apply when they identify as having 15-25%!

We wait until there is very little likelihood of failure before taking action. 

We also tend to over-prepare, if anything… in wanting to ensure we get things right, we look good, and we avoid looking bad. 

We want to be perfect, appear perfect, and perform perfectly, all too often. And because it’s an ideal that doesn’t exist, we often feel bad about ourselves when we fall short.

Or, we live in perfectionist paralysis, and don’t put ourselves out there at all.

People-Pleasing

Ah-yes, people-pleasing. 

Yup, I still do that, too. 

Now in my defence, women have a more active hippocampus in our brains than men do, and so are more wired for connection and empathy. While this can be looked at as a good thing, we also have to be careful.  It’s a proven fact women are more interested in being liked than being respected, and as a result we often care too much about what people think.

At times our behaviours are more motivated by not wanting to ruffle any feathers, or by wanting to be liked, instead of doing what is right for us. 

Procrastination and/or P-a-u-s-i-n-g (and over-analysing!)  

Sometimes tied to perfectionism, the idea here is we tend to spend FAR too much time thinking and analysing. Waiting to feel ready or good enough or for the perfect moment to arrive before taking that first or next step. 

We hesitate. We pause. We ruminate. We procrastinate. 

And when we get too caught up in our heads, we tend to imagine worse-case scenarios, listen to the negative voices in our heads that tell us we can’t, we’re crazy, or our idea will never work. 

And as a result, we often don’t take any action at all. 

Okay, so how do we move past these bravery killers?

Awareness, Insight, Action. 

First, you need to identify what killer is coming up for you in the moment.

Gain awareness, and get real. Are you taking on a behaviour or an action because it feels right to YOU? Or because you are trying to get someone to like you? 

Are you finding an excuse as to why you’re not taking on a behaviour or an action because you’re stuck in your head? Are you listening to those negative voices? Are you wanting to be PERFECT before you even begin?

Notice what is happening. And examine why it may be happening for you. Look inside yourself. Insight brings clarity. 

And finally, it’s time to take ACTION! 

The only way to build bravery is through action. PERIOD. 

You’re not going to think your way into feeling more confident. Instead, you have to choose to get into actin before you feel ready. That’s what it means to be brave.

Action builds your bravery muscle, even if the action isn’t related to the area you may be lacking it.

And action is contagious. That first, small brave move is all you need to take!

If you were even braver than you are right now, if you were even more confident than you are right now, what one small action would you take? 

And WHEN are you going to take it?!?

Today seems like a pretty good day to me! Go ahead, I DARE you!

You don’t need to learn any more, get any more qualifications, do any more prep work.

I truly believe each and every one of us is here for a greater purpose. And when we are holding back or letting our confidence killers get the better of us, we’re not showing up in the biggest version of ourselves. And we’re not going to make the biggest impact we can make. 

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Which bravery killer holds YOU back the most? And what is that one small action you are going to take (maybe even today?!?) to move you forward?

I want to hear from you in the comments below. 

Have a FAB day!