The whole day was special, one my father said he would remember for a very long time. And it was, and I shall too. And yet, part of me feels as though I wasnâ€™t really thereÂ in the moment. I mean I was, of course, but instead of truly living and â€˜beingâ€™ in the moment, I was kind of more in the â€˜doingâ€™ mindset of the moment.
Let me explain. The whole time I was worried about whether this was the right thing for us to be doing, if we were seeing the right things, if they would even like the drive to this place, (as I had never done it previously I was a tad anxious!), if the food would be good enough, and if we even had enough on the agenda or perhaps should have squeezed in a bit more. And to top it all off, I spent part of the drive thinking what a perfect moment to catch up on e-mails to coordinate my upcoming teaching and coaching sessions! Talk about not â€˜beingâ€™ in the moment at all! And yet, at the time, I thought â€˜Great! I can get a few more things crossed off that darn list!â€™
I may preach really â€˜beingâ€™ in the moment, but it is a lot harder to actually put into practice. I feel like the â€˜doingâ€™ is often what counts, as taking action is what is actually going to get us somewhere. And yet, if we are constantly doing things, are we really evenÂ being in the moment and experiencing the journey?
When coaching and being coached this week, this same idea of doing and being of action came up a few times. Because coaching is all about forwarding the action, creating and taking actual action steps comes with the territory. And yet if we are solely focused on the â€˜doingâ€™ â€“ the checking off of lists and the achieving of goals and results â€“ surely we are missing out something in the â€˜beingâ€™.
It can be hard to feel as though we are doing something without physically and tangibly doing something. And yet, could it be possible we could be doing by just being?
Before getting too philosophical, letâ€™s consider that sometimes we need to â€˜doâ€˜ less and simply â€˜beâ€™ more. And as Iâ€™ve spoken about previously, if we are not nowhere, we are nowhere (words of the wise, Baron Baptiste…). And when we are doing too much, just remember to inhale, exhale, and repeat.
Have a FAB week, everyone!