Happy Friday! And Happy Valentine’s Day!
This morning I was so excited when I received a Valentine’s Day card from my little niece, carefully folded with a sticker heart to properly conceal it.
Remember those Valentine’s Day cards we used to exchange when we were in grade school? I used to love both giving and receiving them when I was younger. A tad cheesy, but still cute.
My message was ‘You take the cake!’ while my Dad’s read ‘You make my heart melt,’ and my sister’s ‘You’re my sweetie – pie!’ complete with a big slice of pie.
It’s quite funny to think of these gushing messages of love sent by innocent 8-year-olds. And yet it’s more about the act of showing you care that matters.
And I suppose that’s what love is all about.
I’ve never been a lover of love… decor that expresses love, posters and signs and word sculptures, any kind of love paraphernalia for that matter. Not because I don’t believe in love, but maybe because I find it a bit cheesy, or perhaps I’m more reserved in opening my heart to it.
Now expressing gratitude, appreciation, I’m all over that. Which is why last week I shared what, in my opinion, are the 3 most important words you could ever use. However expressing mushy messages of love is not something I’m as comfortable with.
That being said, life would be nothing without love.
I remember one of my favourite songs to sing when I was in grade one called ‘Give a Little Love’ :
Give a little love each day,
Just a little love each day,
And right before your eyes,
You’re gonna realize,
The sun has chased the clouds away.
If you just give a little love, each day.
That’s all I can remember ~ I’m pretty sure I forgot a verse or two in there somewhere! But you get the idea.
Sharing love makes good things happen. And the more you give it away, the more it grows.
So today, on this fine Valentine’s Day, whether you have a special Valentine in your life or not (shout out to all of the fellow single folk out there!), here are some ways you can both give a little love to yourself and to others today (as both are equally as important!)
1. Write a love letter to yourself.
When was the last time you wrote yourself a love letter? Have you ever written one?
No doubt you’ve written some in your time (I actually have an antique trunk where I keep old love letters and special cards from folks over the years…), however as important as it is to spread and share the love with others, it’s arguably even more important to show the love for yourself.
So go on, get out a piece of paper or a card – or splurge on a fancy piece of stationary – and start waxing poetic to yourself today, to your younger self, or to your future self.
2. Write a love letter (or simply a nice note!) to someone else
Everyone loves a good love letter or note of appreciation. Yet we’re often too busy to make time to express our love for other special people in our lives. And I’m not just talking about lovers or significant others. These notes can be shared with friends, family members, colleagues, neighbours…
Share some of the reasons you love and/or appreciate someone. You’ll make their day, and yours too. You can do it spontaneously, or anonymously, or even pretend to be a secret admirer.
3. Take yourself out on a date
I used to take myself out on dates all of the time. Still do! Sometimes I even get dressed up, choose a fancy or fave place, and indulge in a delicious meal… often including dessert!
Don’t want to go out? Order in and watch some Netflix in your pajamas. You may just find out you’re pretty good company!
4. Do a random act of love
We’ve all heard of random acts of kindness… but what about random acts of love? Perhaps similar in nature, however random acts of kindness often have to do with strangers (or friends you haven’t yet met.) Whereas random acts of love could be considered random acts you do for people you already know. Put a love note into your child’s lunchbox. Send your sibling tickets to their favourite concert. Or say yes to watching a movie of your friend or significant other’s choice, even though it wasn’t first on your list. Love doesn’t have to be limited to romantic love. You can show small acts of love to anyone who means something in your life. And no doubt they will be open to receiving this love.
5. Buy yourself flowers (or chocolates!)
There is something about having a fresh bouquet of flowers. It freshens the air. It freshens your home. It freshens your soul. And it’s almost like you’re giving yourself a special treat. We do it for our guests, but how often do we do it for ourselves? Well, you’re worth it. Same goes for a fancy box of chocolates!
6. Give up something you love
This may appear counterintuitive, so hear me out. Sometimes we do things that aren’t good for us, because we are very good at rationalizing or justifying why we deserve it. A Netflix marathon until 2am in the morning. A second bowl of ice cream. A 3rd glass of wine. Maybe it’s time to love yourself enough to give something up.
So next time you have a craving for a little extra indulgence, say no. Because deep down, even though in the moment you may think you’re showing yourself some love, you know by saying no, you’re actually loving on yourself even more.
7. Donate to a cause in honour of someone you love
It could be in memory of someone who has passed, or someone still living. It could be in their name, or given anonymously. Although it’s nice to know our love has been received, it’s arguably even more important for you, the sender, to enjoy expressing it. And it’s not always about what you may get in return.
I hope you take on one of these ideas today or this week… and I then I hope to hear from you! Share your experience in the comments below.
Have a FAB week!