If it’s not a ‘Hell YEAH!’ it’s a no.
I remember first hearing that phrase a few years ago… and it really resonated with me at the time.
You see, I’m not always the best at making decisions. And yet I’m pretty fortunate in that there always seems to be a plethora of options and opportunities at any given moment.
It’s a blessing and a curse, really.
Fun to know there are so many things I could attend, take on, get involved with… and yet all the more difficult to know which to say yes to, and which to pass up.
And so, if I’m honest, I’ve been known in the past to say yes to it all, or take on a tad too much. Until it really becomes too much, and therefore is no longer enjoyable.
Choices are exciting. And choices are tough. (And if you’ve never heard of Barry Schwartz and his book and accompanying Ted Talk, ‘The Paradox of Choice,’ I suggest you check it out!)
And so, it’s often useful to have some filters to help with the decision-making, and determine what makes the most sense for you at given moment in time.
Here are some questions I ask myself when trying to put ideas or opportunities through a filter of sorts:
- Does it excite me?
- Do I have the capacity to take it on at this moment?
- How much time and/or energy will it require of me?
- What are the potential rewards?
- Is it something important to me?
- Is it in alignment with my values?
- Examine the real reasons I would want to say yes – Am I doing it for me? To prove something to myself or others? To please someone else? To be liked? To fit in?
- Will it bring me closer to where I want to be, or farther away?
And now, regardless of how rational we may be, despite any fancy test or vetting process we take ourselves through, I have one question that can more often than not bypass it all:
“Is it a HELL YES?”
Because if it’s not, perhaps it’s a no.
We have SOO many projects and people and options and opportunities competing for our time and attention, all the time. And so why would we give up our precious resources to something that is less than extremely exciting to us?!?
Is there something you are currently facing that requires a decision to be made?
Get honest, and ask yourself if it’s a hell yes. And if it’s not, perhaps it’s a no, and maybe it’s okay to pass on it this time around.
And there is NO harm in admitting that!
You will only be doing a disservice to yourself, to others, and ultimately the world wasting your resources on something that doesn’t totally light you up. That doesn’t fuel your fire. That doesn’t get you going deep down in the core of your belly.
Life is short enough as it is. It’s worth passing on the ‘good’ in order to make room for the ‘great.’
And it’s worth waiting for the ‘Hell Yeahs!’ Otherwise, it may be time to get your brave on and say ‘Hell No!’
Where in your life are you facing an important decision? And what’s it going to be? I want to hear from you in the comments below.
Have a FAB week!