if you’re not now here, you’re no where

if you're not now here you're no where

Happy Friday!

Warm coffee in my hands,
Sky above nice and blue –
Happy Friday to me, 
and Happy Friday to you!

A little poem for your reading pleasure. I thought it apropos as right now we are en route to our family holiday home in Pevensey Bay, where my younger sis has organized a little cozy getaway to spend our first ever Guy Fawkes weekend. With her meticulous planning skills, mixed with my virgin enthusiasm (just what is all of the fuss and excitement around this Guy Fawkes guy anyway? Well, actually, in an effort to understand more about the holiday, I did do a little research. I found out he and his 13 fellow ‘Gunpowder Plotters’ actually had quite the guts ploying an intricate explosion of the House of Lords and assassination of King James I – and to commemorate their failed attempt and ensuing execution, we get to celebrate with bonfires and fireworks! Well, it’s a bit more complex than that, but you get the idea…), sprinkled with the boys mad fire making skills — here’s hoping — it will no doubt be a fab weekend.

It’s the first time I’ll be experiencing such a weekend, the first time I am now experiencing Friday afternoon traffic along the M25, and the first time the boys will be exposed to s’mores.

Life is full of firsts. That is what keeps it exciting, keeps us on our toes. Someone wise once told me – actually on more than one occasion – that life is comparisons. Although I may understand where this view comes from, I have to say I humbly and graciously may disagree. Comparison is what keeps us looking to our past, looking to our future, and looking to people and situations around us to see if we, or our perceived life, measures up. I know at least for myself, looking to my past may inform me somewhat of my patterns, may offer some lovely memories, but doesn’t serve me well if comparing to where I was, what I was doing, or how happy I was. Looking to my future, while exciting, often triggers thoughts such as ‘my life will begin when…’, or ‘once i have checked off x, I’ll be happy then…’ And comparing ourselves and our lives to those around us can be detrimental to say the least. Plus, we never know another’s real story… and so potentially berating ourselves in thinking we’re somehow not keeping up with the Jones’ seems futile, no? I mean, it’s all based on perceptions anyhow! I can say this so openly because I personally fall prey to comparisons… and more often than I perhaps should. And it certainly doesn’t contribute to me being and putting out my best self.

In my humble opinion, life isn’t about comparisons. Life is about right now. Every moment, every breath is a new experience. And if we’re too busy comparing, we could miss out on the beauty in the present! And just a tiny tidbit of yoga speak if you will: if you’re not now here, you’re nowhere.

A new month. A new day. A new moment. Live it, enjoy it, and make it count!

Have a FAB week, everyone!


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Carol Schulte

Carol is a published author, has been featured in numerous magazines and podcasts, and is a returning guest expert on Rogers TV. Having lived and worked in 16 countries including Ashrams in India and vans in New Zealand, rocked dreadlocks in Thailand and shaved her head for breast cancer, she certainly walks her talk and brings a global perspective to all she does. When she’s not traveling or speaking on stage, you can find her volunteering as a bereavement facilitator, training for her next triathlon, or practicing her serious carpool karaoke game.

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