It’s time to get uncomfortable.

My week in pictures (L-R): Valentine’s Day happenings (treated myself to a spa day!) then Singles in the City event with founder Laura Bilotta, one of my little Valentines, fun reunion amongst theatre school friends, contestants from my Advanced Toastmasters club (last minute entry and humbled to say I won the Evaluation Contest! Guess they liked my Valentine’s Day pink attire…), beautiful sky while taking a hooky morning to go snowboarding, ‘Live Your Fabulous’ event with Company of Women, keynote speaker Carole Bertuzzi Luciani and I (get this ~ I actually met her 9 years ago while working at lululemon. We shared stories after finding out she was involved in a Breast Cancer fundraiser, and when she said she was a speaker I told her that was my dream job! And now I’m doing it! True story.)

So this week I braved it out and went to see ’50 Shades of Grey.’ Yeah, there were some pretty steamy scenes. And yet I didn’t get as uncomfortable as I thought I might (I think it might have been a bit of a different story for the friend I was with… there may have been a little squirming action going on!) However, it’s not because I don’t know what it’s like to get uncomfy. I totally do.

There are a few different ways one can get uncomfortable.

  • Perhaps your skinnies are feeing a little too tight after indulging in an all-you-can-eat lunch. Yeah, been there done that. And yes, that can get uncomfortable.
  • Maybe you run into an ex while having lunch with your current. And so of course you feel obliged to do the courteous yet totally awkward introduction. Been there done that, too. And yes, it was a tad uncomfortable! (tip: try to avoid the phrase: ‘this is awkward!’)
  • You’ve just had an important business meeting, or gone on a hot date. You think it went really well, and just as you flash yourself a little smile in the mirror congratulating yourself, you are mortified to see a piece of your spinach salad caught in between your front teeth! Okay, so this hasn’t happened to met yet, however pretty sure it’s only a matter of time!


So yes, there are lots of situations in which you could easily have every right to feel uncomfortable. However, I want to talk about another type of uncomfortable today.

The type of uncomfortable I want to talk about is the type you feel when you are stretching yourself. When you are playing a bigger game. When you are stepping to the edge of your comfort zone, or questioning where the edge of your comfort zone really is.

Now I’ve talked about the importance of getting outside of your comfort zone before, however I am going to take it one step further.

I’ve had a few coaching conversations this week where I’ve heard people speak about the fact they’re feeling uncomfortable, as if it was a BAD thing.

On the contrary, friends! Feeling uncomfortable is a GOOD thing! Why? Because it means you’re stretching, you’re playing bigger, you’re doing something a little scary. And yes, likely outside of your comfort zone.

Woo hoo! Celebration time!!!

If you’re not going outside of your comfort zone every once in a while, you’re playing too small. ‘Cause it’s outside where the magic happens, where the game of life really starts to get interesting.

I am going to be bold enough to say feeling uncomfortable is not only a good thing, and par for the course, but it’s actually a necessity if you want to live a big life (or even bigger!) And I know you do, right?!?

So, this week I challenge you to get a little uncomfy. Do it. I dare you!

And I want to hear from you any time you do. And I shall be there to congratulate you for stepping up, for stepping out, and for playing bigger.

If you want to live big, you have to play big. And if you want to play big, you have to be okay getting a tad uncomfortable. So get used to it! (Click to tweet it out!)

I hope you experience, relish, and celebrate any and all feelings of discomfort this week.

Have a FAB week!

When have YOU felt uncomfortable? I’d love to hear from you in the comments below!

P.S. Speaking of uncomfortable, I am going to be speaking at TWO big events coming up celebrating International Women’s Day. March 8th, ‘Women’s Day Summit’ and March 11, ‘Make it Happen’ … I’d love to see you there! 

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Carol Schulte

Carol is a published author, has been featured in numerous magazines and podcasts, and is a returning guest expert on Rogers TV. Having lived and worked in 16 countries including Ashrams in India and vans in New Zealand, rocked dreadlocks in Thailand and shaved her head for breast cancer, she certainly walks her talk and brings a global perspective to all she does. When she’s not traveling or speaking on stage, you can find her volunteering as a bereavement facilitator, training for her next triathlon, or practicing her serious carpool karaoke game.

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  1. Linda Sztanko says

    Love your blogs! They are always spoken from the heart!
    Great to FINALLY see you and give you a hug at Live Your Fabulous.
    Isn’t Carol Bertuzzi amazing.. What a funny lady and inspiring speaker for sure!

    I am definitely getting out of my comfort zone and find the more I do… the more I love it and want to get out of it more!

    You Inspire Me!

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