Are your inexcusable excuses being disguised as reasonable reasons?

My week in pics: Speaking in Florida and enjoying time with my iaap peeps, squeezing in the last day of Ice Wine Fest with my Dad, attending Networking in Action event with Jennifer Beale and Leigh Mitchell and lots of happy faces!

Are your inexcusable excuses being disguised as reasonable reasons?

As of late, I’ve been noticing myself using valid reasoning (at least in my mind) to explain why maybe I haven’t been checking certain things off the do-list list, followed through with certain actions, or pressed snooze when the alarm goes off. I’ve been traveling. I’ve had extra doctor’s appointments for my knee. I’ve come down with a cold and deserve to sleep in.

Now some of these reasons may very well be valid. And yet there is a slippery slope where reasons may actually be excuses in disguise.

Sometimes we’re not even aware of our own excuses, as they have become so second nature to us. Or they act as an invisible blanket that keeps us safe in our comfort zone. Often those close to us can likely predict our response to a certain question or opportunity, before we even answer, as they are so used to hearing our excuses.

I don’t have enough time. I don’t have enough money. I’m not ready. I need to get  _X_  figured out first. I have to look after this or that or him or her.

You see we could live in the world of excuses. Or we could take action and create the life we really want for ourselves.

One of the recent modules of one of my amazing Masterminds had us create a ‘Loser Wall’, where we had to write out all of our excuses, and place them on a wall that we would walk by regularly. I filled a giant white board that now sits in my office space. The idea is that if we read the excuses we use on a regular basis, they will soon appear ridiculous.

It’s easy to come up with excuses. It’s easy to stay where we’re at. And it’s easy to put off until tomorrow what we could be doing today.

Yet tomorrow never comes.

So you either stop with the excuses today, or you live in excuseville until the cows come home.

Are you living with reasonable reasons? Or might they be disguised as inexcusable excuses? It’s time to get real (Click to tweet it out!)

It’s time to stop with the excuses. I’m talking to you, I’m talking to me, I’m talking to all of us.

We’re here to dream a bigger dream. To play a bigger game. To live a bigger life. And if we continue to wear our excuses, we’re selling ourselves short.

So if you’ve fallen off the wagon after this first month, it’s all good. Dust yourself off and jump back on. No more excuses. You got this.

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What NOT to do when volcano boarding… 7 lessons learned from Nicaraguan Retreat

What NOT to do when volcano boarding… 7 lessons learned from my Nicaraguan Retreat

So many experiences, so many moments, so many take-aways. Hard to sum it all up here, however I have compiled a few key lessons from my retreat in Nicaragua.

 

Simple life is happy life.

The Nicaraguans I met were all lovely people. They may not have much as compared to our standards, or the norm in our consumer world, and yet they are happy. And they practice the art of gratitude.

We really don’t need much to survive. A few clothes, some good food, a roof over our heads, and good company. A lot of us committed to de-cluttering our environment and de-cluttering our lives. Where could you maybe live more simply?

Ditching digital devices can be a good thing.

It didn’t take me long to get used to not having wifi or phone service. In fact, truth be told, I kinda liked it. Once I made the commitment to do a full digital detox for the week, I loved not feeling that constant pressure to be connected.

We experienced some pretty powerful moments. We enjoyed conversation. We watched the stars. We were in bed shortly after the sun went down and woke up to the roosters around 5:30am. It was pretty neat. When was the last time you disconnected?

 

Doing good feels good.

Volunteering at the local school, built by the resort’s own non-for-profit ‘Waves of Hope’, was a powerful experience. There’s something to be said for getting down and dirty (I even mixed concrete for the first time!). We weren’t there long, and yet we painted, we cleaned, we poured, and we made a difference… however small.

I have embraced this new idea of ‘making waves.’ Creating lasting ripples through the work you do and the actions you take. May you make waves in your own life, too.

 

Don’t take the temple that is your body for granted.

We spent a lot of the week in activity… from surfing, to stretching, to sweating it out. It felt good (until my knee injury at least!) to be able to use our beautiful bodies for fun and strengthening activities.

Even after the little accident, I was even more so reminded of the fact our bodies should not be ignored nor taken for granted. They should be celebrated, used, and respected.

 

You really can make your own chocolate!

So we did a chocolate making workshop. Amazing! Real cocoa beans are pretty darn cool. Like a nut, you can roast them, and then gently crack open the shell to get at the glorious looking bean inside. We put the beans through an old school grinder, worked with a variety of ingredients from ginger to chilli to mint to nuts to rum… and then presto! Who knew?!?

These little chocolate balls, although nothing like Cadbury, were quite delicious. And pretty cool that we made them on our own. There’s something to be said for making something from scratch. Something that perhaps you never thought possible.

 

There’s something powerful about being in community.

Being involved in a community in general, and especially in our case a group of empowered women is just, well, powerful. When I was leading the workshops, and we were engaging in important dialogue, I felt blessed to be able to do the work I do.

One of the participants shared how amazing it was to be around such ‘nice’ and real women. She just wasn’t used to it. And I couldn’t agree more. Through conversation the walls come down, and we find out we all have both our strengths and our struggles. And our highlight reels on social media aren’t always our realities!

 

What NOT to do when volcano boarding!

So I’m sitting here in an immobilizer, using crutches, after a little volcano boarding accident! Perhaps I gave in to my dare devil ways and thought it would be fun to really try to go as fast as I could down the active volcano. Um, yeah, maybe I should have listened when they said start slow until you get a feel for it!

Life is not a race. We can pace ourselves. I am grateful for this harsh reality check I was given, as it is literally forcing me to slow down, stay in, and check-in.

 

Simple life is happy life. Doing good feels good. What NOT to do while volcano boarding. … 7 lessons learned from a Nicaraguan retreat. (Click to tweet it out!)

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7 Ways to live big (or even BIGGER!) in 2016

7 Ways to live big (or even BIGGER!) in 2016

Ready to live BIG (or even BIGGER) this year? Here are 7 ways… and to make them easier to remember, they even spell out L.I.V.E. B.I.G.!

Learn something new every day.

The only way you’re going to escape the mediocrity trap, and live a bigger life, is if you’re constantly challenging yourself to grow. And one of the best ways you can grow is to ensure you’re learning new things all of the time.

It could be as simple as learning a new way to cut your morning piece of fruit, or as complex as choosing to learn a new language.

 

Ignite your passions.

 Do you love to dance? To sing? To have picnics in the park?

Perhaps you love exploring local coffee shops to find that perfect flat white.

Whatever you love to do, whatever makes your heart sing, do more of that this year.

Although there’s a lot of pressure to find your ‘purpose’ these days (I’ll be the first to admit I’m constantly striving to find it!), maybe we can alleviate some of that pressure. Instead of stressing over “finding your purpose”, focus on igniting your passions…the latter may even end up informing the former.

 Vibrate Positivity and Gratitude.

 Research states that the two most powerful human emotions are positivity and gratitude. Are you consciously practicing both of these?

It’s all too easy to focus on what you haven’t accomplished, or what you don’t have, instead of what you DO have! Get in the habit of sending out some positive and grateful vibes on a regular basis… and watch what happens!

Experience the Moments.

Life is made up of moments. And, are we too busy to fully appreciate them?

As Ferris Bueller says: “Life moves pretty fast, if you don’t stop and look around every once in a while, you could miss it!”

Don’t let 2016 pass you by. Take some time to truly be present to experience, indulge in, and cherish the moments.

Be even more you.

When was the last time you took yourself out on a date? Spend some time getting to know yourself even better this year. It may sound funny, but I honestly believe we don’t spend enough time with ourselves.

Enjoy your own company. Embrace your gifts, as well as your quirks. Don’t hide your idiosyncrasies, flaunt them! And stop trying to keep up with the Jones’… begin to love all that you are and all that you’re not.

 
Inspire Action (and get OUT of your comfort zone!)

How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. How do you take action towards what you really want? One step at a time. And yes, that may mean getting uncomfortable and even facing your fears.

Life really does begin at the edge of your comfort zone. Now there’s a reason why 85% of the population live in their comfort zones… it is, after all, comfortable! BUT, it’s not where the game of life really gets played.

Stretch yourself just a little bit more this year. Dare to try. Dare to fly. You might surprise yourself!

 
Give back; give big.

 “We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.” ~ Winston Churchill

It’s so true. Whether it’s with your time, your money, or your energy, give away a little of what you’ve got. It could be simply giving your friend or your significant other your full attention and a listening ear, or it could be volunteering your time on a regular basis to a cause that matters to you.

It’s important to think about what you want for you this year, yes… and yet it’s more fulfilling when you also think about what you want for others (plus you’ll end up getting more in return, trust me!)

 

So there you have it. Resolutions aside, goal-setter or no goal-setter, here are 7 ways to live even bigger this year. Make this year count. Make it one to remember. Make it BIG. (Click to tweet it out!)

 

Have a FAB week!

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P.S. If you are serious about living BIG this year, and are interested in applying to be a part of our Living BIG Inner Circle Mastermind, go HERE for more information.

 P.P.S. I will be in Nicaragua hosting a retreat this week, with limited access to email, so I’ll be replying to your messages and/or comments after Jan. 16th. Thanks for your understanding!

 

Shiny Object Syndrome?!? Three Ways to Squash it!

My week in pictures (from L-R:) Good times in Seattle speaking to the amazing Pacific Northwest branch of iaap, getting inspired at the Art of Leadership and hearing Amy Cuddy speak live (and meeting her!) with Heather Moyse, Leigh Mitchell and friends, the 3 finalists of the CAPS Toronto Chapter ‘Catch a Rising Star’ contest, learning lots at ‘What Mama Didn’t Tell Us About… hormones’ hearing the incredibly inspirational Orlando Bowen speak at the Oakville chamber YPEG event. Phew… busy week!

Shiny Object Syndrome?!? 3 Ways To Squash it!

We’re almost coming into the season of lights, giving, and lots of shiny objects. (crazy, right?!?)

However when I say shiny object syndrome, I’m not talking about a crazy obsession with glass ornaments or shiny balls.

I’m talking about those of us who are so full of ideas we all too easily get distracted, or we feel we need to go after the latest trend, or we get so excited by the next project we never actually complete what we are working on NOW.

The challenge? You’re a creative type – so of course you’re going to have lots of ideas swimming around in that head of yours at any one time. However, sometimes it’s due to other things that are going on around us, or in our own head. Once identified, you have the power to do something about it.

And if you are ever going to see anything into fruition, into the full potential it can be, you have to have crazy discipline and immense focus, and stick to one thing before chasing your next big idea.

If you really want to make a difference, you need to work on only ONE THING at a time. (Not that all of your ideas aren’t possible, simply not all at the same time.)

EEK! Easier said than done, right? I’m preaching to the choir here I know… including to myself!

Here are three ways to get your awareness on WHY you may be experiencing shiny object syndrome, and how to squash it.

 

  1. Comparitis

We often get distracted from our purpose, mission, or project du jour by looking at what everyone else is doing around us. And although this can be inspiring, it can also be dangerous!

How to stop it?

Avoid comparing yourself to others. Easier said than done, I know. However, you need to honour your own journey. Trust you are exactly where you need to be. And remember you are only ever going to be the best in the world at being you.

 

  1. Noise

It’s information overload out there! So many fascinating things to learn about, successful people to listen to, books to read, trends to watch. And it’s tough to stay focused and stick to the task at hand when we are competing with millions of bits of stimuli and ideas and advice at any given time!

How to stop it?

Step away from the noise every once in a while. Don’t sign up for a new program, teleseminar, or webinar, until you have implemented all you learned from the last one. And trust you will find what you need to learn when you need to learn it.

 

  1. Self-Doubt

When you don’t think your current idea or project is perfect enough, good enough, or you’re questioning it all together, may find yourself already thinking about your next idea. Not fair! Chances are you started what you’re working on now because you were passionate about it. And so you need to focus on that, and give your current baby a fair go.

How to stop it?

Connect to your why. Realize it’s not about you… remove yourself from the equation so you can come from a place of service. Surround yourself with people who lift you up. People who believe in you. People who will hold you up to your highest potential. And have some sort of ritual in place that connects to your true self… be it writing in a journal, reading your vision, meditating, going for a walk…

Shiny Object Syndrome, although it can mean you have a keen eye for nice things, it can also be detrimental to your business.

Step away from the shiny objects. Stop the self-doubt, the noise, the comparing. Stay on track. You got this! (Click to tweet it out!)

Have a FAB week!

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P.S. You wanna hear Seth Godin speak LIVE in Toronto tomorrow? Come to Socialight Toronto… and because you are a part of this community, you are entitled to half off! Got to www.socialighttoronto.com and use code “LIVEBIG” !!!

The 3 most powerful questions to ask yourself…

My week in pics (L-R:) Fun photoshoot with Laurie Goodman, honoured to be a part of her 3rd Life Messages book, Bobby Umar & Drew Dudley (combined they’ve done more than 12 TEDx talks!), special peeps and good times at Socialight sneak peak event (WANT TO HEAR SETH GODIN LIVE at SOCIALIGHT CONFERENCE Nov.21-22?!? I HAVE A SPECIAL ‘LIVEBIG’ HALF OFF CODE in the ‘P.S.’!), all smiles at Company of Women ‘Live Your Fabulous’ event, Tiffany & I getting blown in the wind!

The 3 most powerful questions to ask yourself…

When was the last time you stepped back and asked yourself some questions?

It’s important to regularly check-in with ourselves and reflect on where we are, and where we want to be. And as we approach the holiday season and gear up to a new year just around the corner, it’s a good time to do so.

These three questions may be ones you learned at a young age, however they are not necessarily easy to answer. And, it’s super important you do so! 

WHAT?

What is it that you want? I mean, what do you REALLY want? What do you see in your vision? What are you prepared to commit to?

The more specific you are, the better.

I’m re-reading Napolean Hill’s classic text, ‘Think & Grow Rich.’ It took Hill over two decades to write… and for good reason. It continues to help millions of people understand wealth building.

The first two laws of success (there are 16 in total) are Definiteness of Purpose and Desire.

Until you know exactly what it is you want (and that, of ours, is always changing) you can’t know what your first step is. The more clear and specific you are, the better. And the easier it is for the Universe to give you what you desire.

 

WHY?

Why do you want what you want? Why does it matter to you? Who are you serving and what is the legacy you want to leave?

I’m sure you’re familiar with Simon Sinek’s work, ‘Start with Why.’ Now in his work, the ‘why’ comes first ~ however he is referring to your customers first needing to know WHY you do what you do.

The WHY and the WHAT go in tandem. It’s so important to know why you want what you want. Once you have your underlying motives super clear, you’ll be more than motivated to put in the work; you’ll be inspired to do the work. And when a bigger vision is pulling you, there is nothing stopping you.

HOW?

How are you going to do this? How can you make that happen? How are you going to start?

Okay so now you know WHAT you want, and WHY you want it, it’s time to figure out the HOW.

Once you start asking ‘How’ to do something, instead of ‘If’ I should do something, your mind is already coming up with solutions. Your brain is actually programmed to come up with solutions.

As I once heard, once you know the WHAT (and why!), you’ll figure out the HOW.

And remember, all it takes is one small step at a time…

SO there you have it. WHAT, WHY, and HOW.

Ask yourself these questions today. Even if you’ve done so recently. Every day is a new day. Take some time to step back and reflect, and get super clear on where you’re going, why you want to go there, and what your next step is.

 

When was the last time you asked yourself WHAT you want, WHY you want it, and HOW you’re going to get it? DO it today! (click to tweet it out)

Have a FAB week!

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And, of course now I want to hear from you. What do YOU really want? Why? And how are you going to take action on it? I want to hear from you in the comments below.

P.S. Do you want to listen to Seth Godin LIVE! He’s coming to the Metro Toronto Convention Centre next Nov. 21-22… AND for my special peeps, you are entitled to HALF OFF tickets! Go to Socialight Toronto and use code LIVEBIG!

P.P.S. Ever wanted to go indoor skydiving?!? Come join other Women Living BIG for our next event “Dive into YOU!” on Nov. 26th! A few tickets left!

Turn potential into possibility in the present.

My week in pictures: Enjoying some of the tiff (Toronto International Festival buzz… saw 3 movies!), rowing gang (and the sunset from the water below middle!) speaking to Company of Women Toronto Chapter, Power of Success event with amazing speakers and awesome peeps! Apologies for going over the top with the selfies!

 

turn potential into possibility in the present.

Imagine 6,000+ people, crazy line-ups around the block, hungry for learning and growth, holding feverishly onto every one of Tony Robbins words, jumping and dancing and cheering like never before, celebrating life while sweating it up and TOTALLY eating it up.

Well, you don’t have to imagine it. Because that was exactly the scene on Wednesday at the International Convention Centre in Toronto. And I was right in the center of it all, milking in every moment.

Any chance to experience one of these big personal development seminars I’m there ~ and not afraid to admit it ~ however throw in names like Les Brown and Tony Robbins and you’re taking it to a whole new level.

Indeed I was eating it up. Taking copious notes, feeling my energy levels soar (and I have quite a bit of energy to begin with!), jumping higher and screaming louder than anyone else around me I’m sure, hugging strangers, and getting completely pumped, totally inspired, and fully FIRED UP.

Now it’s not the first (nor will it be the last) event like this I’ll ever attend. However it was a bit different this time. Why?

I used to sit in those audiences, totally fired up, and yet totally full of fear that I would forget all of the excitement and inspiration and confidence I had cultivated in that moment, and never fully live out my potential.

And then I began to believe in my potential. I had some adventures, volunteered in Thailand, shaved my head (raising $10,000 to boot!), lived in an Ashram, learned how to ride camels, to surf, got dreadlocks, lived in a van, learned languages, picked apples, got a Masters, became a bereavement facilitator, started coaching, started training, started speaking.

And then more recently I used to sit in those audiences, totally fired up, and yet totally full of fear that I would be overwhelmed with all of the possibilities that existed, now that I was realizing my potential, and never actually choosing to take action and live out all of those possibilities.

And then yesterday I was sitting in that audience, totally fired up, and realizing I WAS taking action. I am not only beginning to realize my potential, I am creating possibilities, and beginning to realize them in the present.

Next Thursday marks the soft launch of my new initiative Women Living BIG ~ at the inaugural ‘Bubbles & Bucket Lists’ event ~ a dream I’ve had for a while.

Do I have it all figured out yet? Heck NO! Am I still full of fear? Heck YES! And is that going to stop me from going after what I want? No way, José!

 

According to Tony, there are 3 forces necessary for creation:

  1. Focus
  2. Massive Action
  3. Grace (or love, God, Universe whatever you choose to call it)

He also said that fear ‘aint going anywhere any time soon. It’s true. And so the only way to conquer it is to take MASSIVE action.

 

I asked my Mastermind members in our call last night two questions – and now I’m going to ask you:

  • What is your BIG dream? YOUR BHAG (Big, Hairy, Audacious, Goal)?
  • And what is one small step of MASSIVE ACTION you can take THIS week in the direction of this goal or dream?

We don’t get a dress rehearsal for life. It’s already begun. Your life is NOW. Are you making it what you want?

 

You are full of potential. Life is full of possibilities. Are you realizing them in the present? (click to tweet it out!) 

 

One of my fave lines from Les Brown yesterday: “If you die today, what dreams, talents, skills, books, stories will die with you?”

I hope none.

Live a FULL life so you can die EMPTY.

Have a FAB week!

 

And PLEASE ~ share your BHAGS and Action Steps in the comments below!

P.S. Not sure yet what you want out of your life?!? THATS OKAY TOO! Why dont you join me and 40 other amazing like-minded women at Women Living BIGs inaugural Bubbles & Bucket Lists event next Thursday I guarantee youll leave fired up, bucket list in hand, with some ideas to start making it all happen.

 AND, stay tuned for the FB and Twitter contests were having to learn how you can win a free ticket!  

Just say NO! (Sometimes you have to.)

Just say NO! (Sometimes you have to.)

Do you remember the ‘Just Say No’ campaign from the late 80’s?!? I may be dating myself here, but I’m sure I’m not the only one who remembers those advertisements, commercials, slogans, etc.

This campaign was originally aimed at saying no to drugs. Well, I certainly agree with the sentiment. However, today I would like to bring it back to life ~ albeit with a new focus. I would like to campaign and encourage you to Just say NO! to anything or anyone that is simply not serving you right now. To whatever or whomever is asking something of you ~ your time, energy, or expertise ~ that is simply not what or where you should be focusing on right now.

I’ll admit I am a ‘yes’ girl. I want to say yes, I enjoy saying yes, I feel good when I say yes. WHY? Well, good reasons abound. Perhaps you can relate to one or more of the following:

  • I love saying yes to new opportunities
  • l like being positive and open to whatever life may have to offer
  • I like to please others (or whomever is asking)
  • I don’t want to let anyone down
  • I don’t want to experience FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out!)
  • I’m afraid to say no!

Any of these reasons sound familiar?!?

Well, as much as I enjoy saying yes, I have come to realize this last little while more than ever that sometimes you simply gotta JUST SAY NO!

Especially if you want to make room for what’s really important in your life.

This is what my September ‘Living BIG’ challenge is all about. I know I’ve spoken about it before, so I’m going to stop rambling now and let you watch the video!

 

September Living BIG Challenge

 

Are you going to take on the challenge with me? What or who can YOU say no to in your life right now?

 

Sometimes you gotta say no, in order to be able to say yes. (Click to tweet it out!)

And remember, saying no doesn’t make you a mean person, a selfish person, or a bad person. It just means you are listening to what YOU need right now, and respecting yourself, your needs, and your limits.

It means being realistic about what is possible, and being honest about what is most important to you.

And yes, NO is a complete sentence!

Have a FAB week!

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Expectations. If you can’t live without them, how to live with them.

Expectations. If you cant live without them, how to live with them.

 

Nine times out of ten, when upset is experienced, it’s due to thwarted expectations. Think about it.

You study hard for an exam, expecting a result over 85%, and you miss the mark. You’re likely to get upset.

You go into a big meeting, all primped and prepped, expecting to land that gig or make the sale, and you come out flat. Upset.

You get all dolled up, looking forward to meeting your Prince Charming, or that guy that you made eyes with last time you saw him, and nothing happens. You guessed it – you’re likely to feel upset!

Now in all three of these situations, the feeling of being upset, disappointed, or down, is TOTALLY justified! However, these feelings could also have been avoided. How? By removing the specific expectations in the first place.

It’s human nature to have expectations. And so instead of expecting (pardon the pun!) it be easy to remove them altogether, here are three ways to help manage them.

 

1. Expect an overall experience, not a specific outcome

Instead of going into a situation attached to a certain result you want to have happen, consider how you want to feel, or how you want the overall experience to go, instead. Perhaps you want to feel as though you’ve done your best on that exam. Or you want to give it your best in that presentation. Or you are simply up for having a fun night out with friends. These are more likely to come true, as they speak to the overall experience.

 

2. Dont be an over passionate planner!

I’m sure you’ve experienced those days or nights where you didn’t necessarily have anything planned – you were just up for whatever. And it turned out to be super fun? And on the other hand, no doubt you’ve also experienced those nights where every little detail has been meticulously planned out… and you end up being too concerned ensuring everything is unfolding as it was intended to, instead of actually allowing the experience to unfold? The more details you plan, the more likely your expectations may not all be met. Trust there is a bigger plan in place!

 

3. Have a wee little bit of faith. (or maybe a lot.)

It may sound trite, however sometimes you just have to trust whatever is meant to happen will happen. It may not seem like it in the moment, however there is always learning to be had. You flunked your exam? Perhaps you have an even bigger calling. You don’t land that particular opportunity or sale? There is a better one waiting just around the corner. Your Prince Charming doesn’t show up? He wasn’t meant for you… yours is still grooming his white horse.

 

When it comes to managing expectations, expect an experience, don’t overplan, and have a little faith. What’s meant to happen will happen. Click to tweet it out!

 

Have a FAB week!

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What are your thoughts, ideas, tips when it comes to managing expectations? Leave your comment below!

Are you responsible, or do you have a responsibility?!?

HAPPY FRIDAY!

Are you responsible, or do you have a responsibility?!?

There is the idea of being responsible, and there is the idea of responsibility. Are they the same thing? Perhaps in certain contexts… however on the whole I think not. And, I think it’s important to make a distinction.

I had the pleasure of engaging in some very inspiring and thought-provoking conversations while hosting Jim Cathcart (personal development extraordinaire, spoken at over 2500 conferences all around the world, inducted into the Speakers Hall of Fame, author of 16 books…) this week. We were discussing the potential impact that speakers can have on so many lives. He pointed out on more than one occasion that while indeed it is an honour, with that comes a big responsibility. It’s true. And I think that is true for all of us.

Whether you are a professional speaker or not, you have a responsibility to share the best of who you are and what you know. You have a responsibility to share your story, share your gifts, and share your message… even on the days when you don’t feel like it, when you don’t feel ready, or when you don’t feel ‘good enough.’

 

I know you want to make a difference in the world. And so
  • You may not be responsible for other people’s thoughts, actions, or feelings, however you have a responsibility to do what you can to affect them in a positive manner.
  • You may not be responsible for other people’s decisions, however you have a responsibility to deal with every situation with confidence and to the best of your ability.
  • You may not be responsible for the rain or the weather, however you have a responsibility to make the day a good one.
  • You may not be responsible for another’s successes or failures, however you have a responsibility to help them see what is possible for their lives.
  • You may not be responsible for all successes or failures in your own life, however you have a responsibility to learn from every experience.
  • You may not be responsible for certain uninvited, unwelcome, unexpected events that take place in your life, however you have a responsibility to face them with as much courage as you can.

 

You may not be responsible for a lot of things in life, however you still have a responsibility to show up, to be you, and to do the best you can ~ wherever you are with whatever you have. (Click to tweet it out!)

Have a FAB week!

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We’re all in the people business…

My week in pictures… With MPP Chris Ballard at the Women’s Day event where I gave the evening keynote, John Demartini, meeting Paul Henderson, Founder & CEO of Next Century Publishing Ken Dunn, New York Times Best Selling Author Nick Booth, good times at the BUCS Fundraiser Women’s Day, CAPS meeting, PwC Vision 2 Reality conference. 

At the end of the day, we’re all in the people business. 

I wrote that on a cocktail napkin last night and pinned it to the massive stand-up doodle inspiration boards – a nice touch at the after party of the PwC ‘Vision to Reality’ conference yesterday.

It was an ah-ha I had while listening to Robin Sharma talk, the opening keynote.

This week’s theme has really been about people. Not only because I was around a whole bunch of people every day (I had a lot of happenings ~ even for me! ~ 6 different events and a full day conference to be exact) – but because the moments that stand out were the intimate moments I had one-on-one.

The highlight of my week was a coffee date I shared with a good friend who is going through a bit of a challenging time right now. We only had an hour together ~ and yet we were both so present, so locked on, and so connected. She then gave me the nicest compliment ever, about why our time together means so much to her.

Brendon Burchard, during his High Performance Academy, asked us to think about what 3 words we would want others to use in describing our interactions. We then had to set alarms on our phone, to go off daily, with the label being these same 3 words. The idea is to remind us and absorb. I’ve been doing this for the last few weeks. It’s powerful.

Have you ever given thought to how you are being experienced by others? Have you ever given any thought to how you want others to experience you?

We are not in this world alone. And if we really do want to make a difference, truly contribute, leave a legacy in our own little way, it’s not about us.

Robin Sharma spoke about the fact leadership was about 3 things: Inspiration, influence, impact. It’s all about other people. Both he and John Demartini (had the honour of meeting and hearing him this week, too!) touched on what it takes to be successful. It’s not about making a million dollars, it’s about serving a million people.

People and relationships really are what make the world go around.

Who are you being with the people in your life? Both those you’ve known for decades and those you are meeting for the first time? Are you really present with them? Listening to them? Asking their names and actually bothering to remember? Asking about their story? Caring? How are you helping and serving those people in your life? How are ensuring you are leaving them better than you found them?

“People will forget what you say, they will forget what you do, but they will never forget how you made them feel.” ~ Maya Angelou

Because no matter what business you are in, at the end of the day, we’re all in the people business. (Click to tweet it out!)

Have a FAB week!

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