How to be Unflappable (7 ways to more powerfully SHOW UP and STAND OUT.)

Happy Friday!

This week I won my entire swim training group muffins.

And Nick, one of my new fave baristas, just gave me a free cup of coffee.

What?  Why?  How?

Well, the muffins was due to a challenge our instructor threw out to the group, to see if anyone could remember everyone’s name during our 3rd practice. And if anyone could do it, muffins for all!

Now there’s not a lot of interaction during our swim practice. We arrive at the pool sometime around 5:30am, get our bathers and caps on, do some stretching, and then it’s into our lanes for drills and lengths and technique practice. After an hour, we’re out, showered, and most are out the door by 7am!

Well, I like a challenge, and I also like remembering people’s names. And when I’m in a new group, I try to make sure I get to know them just a little, or at least ask their names. So I think our instructor was surprised when I volunteered, and yup, nailed it. Now some of these folks had been swimming together for 3 years; it was day 3 for me, and there are 30 of us.

I think the ladies from #WeWorkingWomen where I delivered a presentation last night were equally as impressed when I cited everyone’s name before we began, having met them just a few minutes earlier (Now I have my limits, too! Certainly didn’t so this on Monday evening at Graydon Hall Nursery Schools! You were a FAB group, but anything over 100 in one shot and I’m out!) 

I’m not trying to boast, as anyone can learn how to do it (in fact I have a video where I share my 7 steps to remembering people’s names here). And it’s actually not just about remembering people’s names. It’s caring about people, acknowledging people, and creating space for them to show up and be seen.

I tend to talk a lot to strangers ~ I’ve been known to get into deep conversations at coffee shops, grocery lines, on the elevator or subway… and yes, it often means I’m delayed in getting my own work done. But I have to say it makes life so much more enjoyable! (And I do think certain perks like free coffee, flight upgrades, comp tickets, muffins… may be related to this attitude!)

You’re busy, I’m busy. We’re all busy. I get it.

And yet, if we could take a few moments to think about how we’re showing up, and how we want to show up, it can make all the difference in how we stand out. You only get 7 seconds to make a first impression, after all.

Want to show up and stand out more powerfully both at work and in life?

Here are 7 ideas to do just that.

  • Be the First. Instead of waiting for someone else to say hello to you, ask your name or how you are, let it start with YOU. Be the first to smile, to say hello, or to engage in conversation. Not sure where to start? Try a compliment, question, or comment.
  • Be Curious. Remember what you were like you were on a first date? For some that may be decades ago, for others it may have been last week! But I bet you were interested and engaged, and also wanted to appear interesting and engaging to the other. I bet you asked curious questions. Do more of that in your life. Ask more interesting questions, and be a great conversationalist. 
  • Be Intentional. Take a few minutes to think about how you want to show up before an important event or meeting. Do your research if necessary, and alleviate any fear or hesitation by preparing in advance. Set an intention before an important conversation. Think about your ideal outcome, but do not be attached to how you get there.
  • Be Consistent. Who you are here is who you are everywhere. Don’t claim to be a positive person, and then when you get in your car allow the road rage to come on! Don’t engage in behaviours like gossip. I know we wear lots of different hats. AND you are still you, regardless of whether you are at work, at home, or at play.
  • Be Generous. Be generous with your presence. Put away your devices when you are talking to someone. Be generous with your time, your sharing, your listening ear, your words, your gifts, your expertise, your encouragement.
  • Be Unflappable. I love this word! Are you able to maintain your cool, regardless of the chaos that may be happening around you? Are you able to stay in control when you find yourself in difficult, unpredictable situations? Are you always rushed and scattered? Slow down, take a breath, get grounded. Be unflappable.
  • Be Yourself. Above all else, to thine ownself be true. Be you. Be unapologetically you. Don’t be afraid to self disclose, wear clothing that makes you comfortable, or engage in behaviours that make you more of who you already are. Stop trying to keep up with the Jones’, and start bringing ALL of you to all you do.

So I dare you to this week to be the first. To be intentional. To be curious. To be consistent. To be generous. To be unflappable. And to be yourself.

And when you do, you’ll certainly be bringing the biggest you to all you do.

Which of these 7 ideas are you going to try on this week?

I’d love to hear from you in the comments below. 

When to say GO, and when to say STOP!

Did you ever play the ‘GO, GO, STOP!’ game when you were a child?

Similar to ‘What time is it Mr. Wolf’ or ‘Freeze’, someone at one end of the room, with their back facing the others, would say ‘Go, go, go, go….’ as many times as they’d like, and then suddenly throw out a ‘STOP!’ Everyone at this point would have to freeze, as this person quickly spins around. And, if anyone was caught moving, they were OUT!

I loved that game. (Although I’m pretty sure I loved ALL games growing up!) 

This game can also be used as a metaphor for life, and it’s actually a reflection of what I’m feeling and experiencing around me these days.

Sometimes it’s time to say go, and sometimes it’s time to say stop. 

Watch this week’s video to learn when and why it’s important to simply STOP, and how to do just that. 

Remember,

You are the expert of your own life. 

You already have all of the answers. 

And only YOU are going to be the best in the world at being YOU. 

 

 

Sometimes it’s time to go, go go… and sometimes it’s time to STOP, ignore everyone else, re-evaluate, and gain the clarity and confidence we need to go forward even more powerfully.

And if you’re ready to do this, and yet don’t know where to start, I invite you to attend one of our upcoming workshops, IGNITE!  taking place on Wednesday, Sept 26th at The Village Hive, or ‘Live B.I.G.G.E.R.’ (PLUS PoleFit Nation Dance & Mingle!) taking place on Friday, Sept. 28th.

 

You’ll get clear on what you want, your values, your needs; learn how to break free from the ‘not enough/in-action trap’ and create a customised action plan for YOU!

I hope to see you there!

Are You Brave Enough?

Happy Friday!

What does it mean to be BRAVE?

I don’t know about you, but watching people getting their brave on gets me pretty jazzed.

And that’s why I was on such a high last weekend, after witnessing first hand 4 incredibly brave women cross the finish line after their first Give-It-A-Tri triathlon (saying yes to a challenge I put out there less than 2 weeks previously!) It was pretty darn exciting.

There’s something about watching people being BRAVE.

Growing up, I wished I was braver.

Or just brave enough. 

Brave enough to be ME. 

Brave enough to say yes to the things I wanted to do and no to the things I didn’t, brave enough to stop trying to please everyone, brave enough to stand up for myself (I’ll share a personal story in the video about boarding school!)

Having the honour and privilege to have worked with and spoken to thousands of women over the years, I’ve come to discover what I call The Brave Zone. The place you can access when you want to be even braver.

Watch this week’s video to learn how to get into your Brave Zone!

If you and I were to live in our brave zone, just imagine what would be possible… 

If you were even BRAVER than you are today, what action would you be taking that you are not taking right now?

And when are you going to DO IT?!?

I want to hear from you in the comments below.

Have a FAB week!

P.S.  Ready to get your BRAVE ON? 

Come and join us at IGNITE! on  Sept. 26th,  Live B.I.G.GER + Pole Fit Nation Dance & Mingle  on Sept. 28th, and IGNITE! : Take The Leap (we’re going to iFly!) on Oct. 27th!

3 Ways to Declutter… Your Mind!

Happy Friday!

I don’t know about you, but I love ‘Back To School’ time of year!

Although it’s been a LONG time since I last strapped on my backpack to set foot down my high school or university hallway, I can’t help but still get excited.

September to me represents a fresh start, a blank canvas, a time for new opportunities.

And in order to do that, you first gotta create some space… in your mind as well as in your life. 

Incompletes, unfinished business, and messes ~ you got any?!?

We all do. And they affect our ability to give our full focus to whatever we have going on right here, or want to create. How? By taking up space and energy in our minds, even when we may not realize it.

Promises not kept, not acknowledged, or not renegotiated? Overflowing closets with clothes never worn? Junk drawers full of unnecessary or unusable items? Unpaid debts or financial commitments? Piles of disorganised paperwork scattered all over your desk? Incomplete projects that require doing, dumping, delaying, or delegating? Personal relationships with unstated feelings, appreciations, or retiring forgiveness?

It’s hard to hit the ground running, and get into a state of flow and creation, so long as we have some lingering incompletes, unfinished business, or messes lying around.

Watch this week’s video to learn 3 easy steps to declutter your mind… to leave nothing but space for creation & possibility!

What is just ONE thing that you could commit to taking on this week, that would knock something off your list?

Tackling the incompletes, unfinished business, and messes in your life leaves nothing but space for possibility, creation, and flow.

Perhaps you want to finally organize your desk. File your taxes. Clean up your closet or that messy drawer. Or maybe it’s time for some forgiveness…

Today is a perfect day to clean up, clutter down, and create space for new possibilities.

Share your commitment over on YouTube or in the comments below. I guarantee you’ll feel a whole lot lighter when you do.

I can’t wait to hear how it goes!

One Step At A Time… Valuable Lessons Learned From the Triathlon!

I wouldn’t say I’m the strongest swimmer. 

And it is by far my weakest leg of the three – swim, bike, run.

It is also the first leg, the scariest, and only a few minutes in I totally panicked!

You see, last week I completed in a sprint triathlon. 

Luckily I made it out of the water, however proceeded to have some hiccups on both the bike, as well as the run legs.

Did I manage to complete the race in the end, you may be wondering?!?

I did actually, and somehow managed to place 3rd in my age category!

However, I learned a few valuable lessons that day. Important lessons that are also quite relevant to life. 

Watch this week’s video as I reveal what really happened, and share my top 5 learnings.

Next time you’re facing a bit of a challenge, or committed to doing something that scares you, remember these valuable lessons.

And then I wanna hear from you!

Share below how you are going to put one or more into practice this week.

And then share this video with someone in your life you think could benefit. Sharing is caring, after all!

Have a FAB week!

7 Secret Benefits To Being Outdoors!

I’m still on a nature high.

This past weekend, I attended Dovetail Summit ~ an incredible experience for female entrepreneurs and business owners from all around the world. We were in beautiful Fernie, BC and spent time white water rafting, hiking, ropes coursing, mountain biking… we even took a surprise helicopter ride through the Rockies! The views were stunning.

And then the adventure continued, when a friend and I decided to go for some epic hiking to Kananaskis Country, about 1.5hrs outside of Calgary.

When we finally arrived at Rawson Lake (pictured above) it was one of those moments you wish you could freeze in time forever… the views were breathtaking, the sights and smells glorious, and with no reception you weren’t even tempted to connect to your devices.

I love spending time outdoors and in nature, and I wanted to dig deeper to discover what other benefits below the surface existed.

Well, I certainly discovered a lot!

In this digital age where our brains are easily overwhelmed and overworked with modern multi-tasking and the multitude of stimuli and distractions at any given moment, we could do with some time outdoors.

Watch this week’s video to learn 7 secret benefits to being outdoors! They will make you want to sign off pronto and head to the park stat. 

So, which of the 7 secret benefits surprised you the most?

And what are you going to do to ensure you get into nature this week?

I’d love to hear from you in the comments below.

Have a FAB week!

 

 

3 Ways to Bring the Joy!

Life can get all too serious sometimes.

And if you’re not allowing yourself to have some fun every once in a while, invite in some excitement, and more importantly bring the joy, what’s the point?!?

Watch this week’s video to learn 3 easy ways to bring a little more joy into your life today.

It’s short and sweet this week… gotta go get ready for white water rafting!

AND, I still wanna hear from you. How are you going to bring a little more joy into your life today?

Share your comments below!

 

No risk, no reward.

Boy was I glad I wasn’t a judge at this week’s Speaker Slam! 

It’s an honour I’ve had the privilege of holding previously, and love cheering on excited speakers take the stage to give it their all, hoping to be crowned one of the coveted top finishers and take home one of the big prizes.

It’s always tough as a judge – but this week was truly stiff competition!

The theme?

No risk, no reward. 

The speakers shared some amazing stories and experiences about taking big risks, which sometimes lead to big rewards, and other times lead to pretty big flops! And yet none of them ever regretted the risks they took. Because there was always learning, growth, and new opportunities that arose they never would have expected.

It got me thinking about when I’ve taken some big risks in my life, and realised there are two types of risks. As it turns out, I’m pretty good at one type, and not so good at the other!

Watch this week’s video to learn about these types of risks, and why it’s worth learning how to take them.

Taking a risk looks different to everyone. And if you’re not ready to move into a van with a man and go apple picking in New Zealand, that’s okay!

But if you have a big dream to start something new, write a book, or climb a mountain (Tanzania anyone?!?) it may be worth the risk of saying yes and taking that chance.

Share a risk YOU are willing to take this week, and then share this video with someone in your life you think could benefit.

As I say in the video, sharing is caring after all!

Have a FAB week!

 

 

 

 

P.S. Are you liking these vlogs? Do you prefer written articles? Have any ideas or topics you’s like me to cover? Share in the comments below or shoot me an email hello@carolschulte.com. I want to know!!! 

This ‘C’ word may be scary, but it’s also a game changer.

This past weekend, while huddling under our club tent from the rain, despite the fact I was dripping and shivering, I also couldn’t help but be inspired. 

Athletes from all walks of life – all shapes and sizes and ages (there was an impressive  78-year-old in the mix!) were competing at the Toronto Triathlon Festival. 

Watching many of them cross the finish line was pretty magical.

It was fun to be a part of it as a volunteer, and, it also made me realize I’m ready to up my game. 

And in order to do that, I need to bring the big scary ‘C’ word into my vocabulary. Because when you do, it becomes real. 

Check out this week’s video to see what word I’m talking about! And find out why this single word is truly a game changer. 

So now I’m curious. What is something in your life you are no longer willing to put off? And what are you going to do NOW to change that? 

I look forward to hearing from you in the comments below.

Have a FAB day!

Why it’s time to be ALL IN.

As you read this blog post, I’m currently ‘Unleashing The Power Within!’ with Tony Robbins in Chicago!

That’s right, I’ll be in the middle of what they say is an incredibly intense 4-day program, and no doubt fully immersed in the action, dancing up a storm, and trying to soak it all in. 

Now I’m definitely excited and open, and yet I also want to ensure I go into this experience without too many expectations. And at the same time, I want to ensure I’m fully present, and go ALL IN for whatever is supposed to unfold.

I remember listening to a motivational speaker years ago share wisdom he received from an old pop can: ‘No deposit, no return.’ And it’s true. What you put into something, is what you’ll get out of something.

Unfortunately, however, being the humans that we are, it’s not always easy to detach from expectations. And with the busy-ness of life, it’s also challenging to be ALL IN on whatever we’re doing, and whoever we’re with, considering the crazy number of distractions competing for our time and attention.

Yet when we do, we experience greater fulfillment, greater success, and greater JOY!

When you drop expectation, and you commit to being ALL IN, anything is possible. 

Here are three areas of your life where you can be all in, and the difference that it will make.

1. Be all when when it comes to the task at hand. 

In the book ‘Deep Work’ by Cal Newport, he talks about the power of focusing on going deep in one area of work, on one important task, and being ruthlessly disciplined in eliminating distractions. When you go deep, you move forward.

In this age of distraction we live in, it’s growing increasingly difficult to retain our focus on one thing – and as a result we spend a lot of our time doing ‘surface level’ work. And jumping from one menial task to another. 

When you’re able to be ALL IN on the work you’re doing, and with each and every specific task, you will no doubt produce some pretty powerful work. Not to mention get a lot more satisfaction while you’re at it.

2. Be all in when it comes to the person you’re with.

I hope you’ve experienced what it’s like to speak with someone who makes you feel as though you are the most important person in the room. It’s pretty darn powerful. And YOU have the opportunity to be that for someone else, too.

When you are fully engaged with the person you’re speaking to, giving them your full attention, and treating them as though they are the only thing that matters in that moment, you make them feel important. And people always remember how you make them feel.

Not only will you get noticed and stand out, your connection, trust, and overall relationships will deepen and become even more meaningful.

3. Be all in when it comes to the present moment. 

I know, I’ve spoken about this before ~ as have so many. The power of now. It’s not always easy, but there is a reason why yoga and mediation and any kind of mindfulness is all the rage right now.

The majority of people spend time feeling guilty about the past – which is over – or anxious about the future – which has not yet arrived. 

However the true power of experiencing life can only come from living in this present moment. And that is the only place where real joy can truly exist. 

Can you imagine what your life would look when you choose to be ALL IN when it comes to your work, your conversations and relationships, and this present moment?

I’m guessing even more powerful, fulfilling, and joyful than it is right now.

That is living BIG, and that is what you deserve.

Have a FAB week!

P.S. If you’re ready BE ALL IN when it comes to your work, your relationships, or another area of your life, let’s TALK!