Are your inexcusable excuses being disguised as reasonable reasons?

My week in pics: Speaking in Florida and enjoying time with my iaap peeps, squeezing in the last day of Ice Wine Fest with my Dad, attending Networking in Action event with Jennifer Beale and Leigh Mitchell and lots of happy faces!

Are your inexcusable excuses being disguised as reasonable reasons?

As of late, I’ve been noticing myself using valid reasoning (at least in my mind) to explain why maybe I haven’t been checking certain things off the do-list list, followed through with certain actions, or pressed snooze when the alarm goes off. I’ve been traveling. I’ve had extra doctor’s appointments for my knee. I’ve come down with a cold and deserve to sleep in.

Now some of these reasons may very well be valid. And yet there is a slippery slope where reasons may actually be excuses in disguise.

Sometimes we’re not even aware of our own excuses, as they have become so second nature to us. Or they act as an invisible blanket that keeps us safe in our comfort zone. Often those close to us can likely predict our response to a certain question or opportunity, before we even answer, as they are so used to hearing our excuses.

I don’t have enough time. I don’t have enough money. I’m not ready. I need to get  _X_  figured out first. I have to look after this or that or him or her.

You see we could live in the world of excuses. Or we could take action and create the life we really want for ourselves.

One of the recent modules of one of my amazing Masterminds had us create a ‘Loser Wall’, where we had to write out all of our excuses, and place them on a wall that we would walk by regularly. I filled a giant white board that now sits in my office space. The idea is that if we read the excuses we use on a regular basis, they will soon appear ridiculous.

It’s easy to come up with excuses. It’s easy to stay where we’re at. And it’s easy to put off until tomorrow what we could be doing today.

Yet tomorrow never comes.

So you either stop with the excuses today, or you live in excuseville until the cows come home.

Are you living with reasonable reasons? Or might they be disguised as inexcusable excuses? It’s time to get real (Click to tweet it out!)

It’s time to stop with the excuses. I’m talking to you, I’m talking to me, I’m talking to all of us.

We’re here to dream a bigger dream. To play a bigger game. To live a bigger life. And if we continue to wear our excuses, we’re selling ourselves short.

So if you’ve fallen off the wagon after this first month, it’s all good. Dust yourself off and jump back on. No more excuses. You got this.

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3 Ways to Make Every Day, Every Event an Experience

Every day, every event, every moment can be an experience. We don’t necessarily have to wait for our next big trip or our next big event to have one.

Here are 3 ideas to do just that.


Adopt a child-like curiosity.

Children are constantly excited and insatiably curious. They observe everything around them. They ask questions. They want to learn. And they freely express themselves in an innocently authentic manner.

Whenever I am in a new city, I love exploring as much of it as possible. And Louisville was no exception! It had far more to offer than I realized. Rich in history, I enjoyed walking the streets, running along the waterfront, and taking an embarrassing amount of selfies (I used to try to hide it now Im shameless about my secret obsession with them!) in front of landmarks and random scenes.

Perhaps easier to do when you are a tourist, yes, however couldn’t you also take on the tourist mindset in your own town? Take a new route to work. Discover new interesting places. Observe the sights around you as though it were your first time seeing them. Smile at strangers. Meet new people. Make new friends. Being curious makes for an experience.


Celebrate even without a celebration.

It’s fun to sometimes celebrate just ‘cause. Indulge in an ice cream. Be crazy and make it a double scoop. Get up and dance even if there isn’t a dance floor. Break out the china for a random Tuesday evening meal.

There are numerous reasons to celebrate every day if you choose to see them.

Now I love being around people, however one of my favourite evenings this week was when I took myself out on a date to the fancy Brown Hotel. I ordered their infamous ‘Hot Brown’ (created in that very hotel in 1926 ~ an open-faced turkey and bacon sandwich swimming in Mornay sauce, and then baked until the bread is perfectly crisp and the sauce begins to brown. It turns out is has 53 ingredients in all!) I decided to celebrate, ordered a glass of bubbly, and made it an experience. Heck, I even had an ‘old fashioned’, seeing as how I was in the land of Bourbon and all!

Don’t wait for a celebration before celebrating. Every moment is worth celebrating, isn’t it? And celebration makes for an experience.


When you get the chance to Howl at the Moon, do it.

In the end, it really is about the moments that matter most. And making moments is easier than you think! So when an opportunity to create a moment presents itself, take it.

I met some lovely folks (I met many, as it turns out!) at the Summit, who very graciously invited me to join them at a Dueling Piano bar called ‘Howl at the Moon.’ I was hesitant at first. Would that make me look less professional? Should I not be prepping for my presentation? What if I can’t help but want to dance?

And then I thought, when am I going to have another opportunity to bond with some lovely ladies, listen to talented musicians while dueling pianos, and go to town on the dance floor? And so I gave into the moment. And I’m so glad I did.

I think we can create more of these types of moments, if we choose to, every day. And moments are what makes an experience.


Whenever I’m on holiday, or visiting a new city, I tend to be curious, celebrate, and relish in the moments more. And yes, this makes for great experiences. And it got me thinking – why do I have to be on vacation mode to do this?!? Perhaps I don’t.

Every day, every moment is an opportunity for an experience, if you choose to make it so. Click to tweet it out!

Have a FAB week!

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Now I want to hear from YOU! What are your thoughts when it comes to creating experiences? I’d love to hear your comments below.