What do you need to let go of?

(My week in pictures, from clockwise from BL: With Heather Ramsey at her ‘Rewired4Success’ event, Girls Night Out, Positive Fabulous Women event with founder Katia Miller, interview with Rachelle from District 28 and Hangloose Media at their Grand Opening event, the elevator  I got stuck in, Women’s Ellevate Network event at Trump Tower.) 

Last week I was stuck in an elevator. No joke. (notice the photo of the elevator with the caution tape?!? Yeah that happened after my incident!) It’s actually the first time it’s ever happened to me! I felt as though I was in a movie or something. I pressed ‘G,’ thought I landed, and then heard a voice through the abyss saying ‘We are experiencing technical difficulties. Please wait’. Like I had any option!

Now just prior to this event, I was in a great mood. I had decided I would create a new ritual, and take myself out to dinner to celebrate whenever I landed a new opportunity. (And I had 3 last week! More to come in that front… however one includes a ‘Spark your G.E.N.I.U.S.’ Women’s Empowerment Retreat that was just confirmed in Sri Lanka in the Fall!)

So there I am in a nice dress, excited to go to my fave restaurant, in a great mood, and I get stuck in the elevator. Although it wasn’t too long before I got out (got to use the emergency phone and everything) I did experience some panic. I mean, I had to speak with the Emergency person at ThyssenKrupp! I must say she did a great job assuring me they were on the case… but still!

Now I could have let it affect my evening, and alter the fabulous mood I was in. I could have hung onto it. But I didn’t. I chose to let it go. (and then I chose to have a nice glass of wine to calm my nerves.)

What might you need to let go of?

Perhaps my elevator experience wasn’t the clearest example. And yet there are numerous situations, events, happenstances in life that affect us in a way so profound they become a part of us. We allow them to become a part of us. We hang onto them. And sometimes to our detriment.

Sometimes it’s not an event, but a relationship we need to let go of. Sometimes it’s a feeling that is no longer serving us. Or perhaps it’s our attachment to a certain outcome, objective, or result.

It has been said the only way real upset or disappointment occurs is when there are thwarted expectations. So, if we removed the expectation all together, would we also in turn remove any possibility for upset? Perhaps… and yet we’re human. And so removing expectation all together is a tough ask! That being said, letting go of certain things, including expectations, is worth considering.

When you let go of whatever is getting in your way, all you have left is space for possibility. (Click to tweet it out!)

Last week we talked about getting uncomfortable. And it seemed to strike a chord! (Thank you all for your feedback!) And so now that we’re willing to get a little uncomfortable, we have to take the next step in setting ourselves up for success. And one of the ways we can do that is by clearing space in order to forge ahead and blaze a new trail.

So, what do you need to let go of?

That coffee spill that happened this morning?

The upset you felt when your friend forgot your birthday?

That meeting with your boss that didn’t go as planned?

That conversation with your sister?

The perfect date night you had planned?

The client prospect meeting that went awry?

That friendship that is draining you of all of your energy?

Your attachment to perfection?

Your jam-packed schedule?

Your need to be right?

Your need to please?

Your need to say yes?


I invite you to take a moment now, to get real, and to look at what you may need to let go of. I guarantee once you do, you’ll feel a while lot lighter. And then yes, what will be left is nothing but space for possibility. To create whatever it is you want. Imagine that?

Go ahead, I dare you! And then I want to hear about it. Leave your comments below :-).

Have a FAB week, everyone!

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P.S. If you haven’t already gotten your tickets yet, two VERY exciting events coming up celebrating International Women’s Day. March 8th, ‘Women’s Day Summit’ and March 11, ‘Make it Happen’ … (and I happen to know 1 of the keynote presenters at each!!!) I’d love to see you there!

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Carol Schulte

Carol is a published author, has been featured in numerous magazines and podcasts, and is a returning guest expert on Rogers TV. Having lived and worked in 16 countries including Ashrams in India and vans in New Zealand, rocked dreadlocks in Thailand and shaved her head for breast cancer, she certainly walks her talk and brings a global perspective to all she does. When she’s not traveling or speaking on stage, you can find her volunteering as a bereavement facilitator, training for her next triathlon, or practicing her serious carpool karaoke game.

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  1. Michelle Durrant says

    thanks for the thoughtful and inspiring story Carol. We all struggle to let go of something and it is so true that you have to let go of what you are holding onto to open your hands to receive something new. (And hopefully improved). Thanks for the reminder, take care Michelle

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