This morning, my shower was cold.
But you don’t have to feel sorry for me – it was actually on purpose.
In fact, I take a cold shower every morning. (Well, if I’m honest, I first take a lovely warm shower…) And then when I’m about ready to get out, I turn the dial all the way to freezing and proceed to force myself to stand under there for a minimum of 60 seconds. And let me tell you, some days it is BRUTAL! (especially during our crazy Toronto Winters!)
Now I do this for two reasons:
1. It’s good for the body, mind and soul.
(So I was told it was good for you, however wasn’t entirely sure on the actual benefits it provided… until a friend very kindly sent me this article…who knew?Worth the quick read!)
2. It forces me to be brave right out of the gates!
While I do think it’s important to do things for your health (hence the reason I’m currently drinking hot water with lemon and apple cider vinegar, and was pretty excited to read that article,) I’m actually more excited by reason #2.
You see, just before I go to turn that dial to the right, I have a moment of hesitation. It’s the exact same feeling you and I get before we do something that scares us a little, or will take us out of our comfort zones. It’s called the ‘The Hesitation Trap’ – and it’s a legit thing! (And if you’re interested in learning the science behind it all, watch this video with Mel Robbins explain in more detail!)
But then I say to myself, if I am brave enough to get under freezing cold water, where else in my day could I get my brave on?
And so I do it.
And even though I’ve been doing this now for years, it doesn’t necessarily mean I’ve gotten more used to it! (Although I will say once you’ve gotten into the habit of doing something, it does get a little easier – which speaks to the power of habits!) That being said, it never ceases to make me feel more awake, more refreshed, more alive.
It’s a small action, and yet it can have a big impact on my day.
And isn’t that always the case.
You see, too many of us are waiting to feel confident enough, or competent enough, or ready enough to go after what we truly want or to do the thing we really want to do.
The truth is, we may never ‘feel’ confident, competent, or ready enough to start anything.
And so we don’t.
We don’t do the thing, sign up for the race, apply for the position. We don’t take the first step.
And yet here’s the thing:
You don’t need to feel confident before you choose to be brave.
Being brave means you take action before you feel ready, even when you’re full of fear… especially when you’re full of fear.
And the interesting thing is, once you take that action, the confidence comes!
Don’t wait to feel. Simply do.
In the amazing book ‘The Confidence Code’ by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman, they define confidence as shortening the gap between your thoughts and your actions.
Totally makes sense.
But instead of shortening the gap, you could choose to ignore it all together and just DO IT!
Because in the end, it’s the action that is going to build the momentum you need to feel more confident, competent, ready.
And all it takes is one small brave act.
Like taking a freezing cold shower.
So, if you’re ready to get your brave on this week, I invite you to do one small thing that makes you just a little bit uncomfortable, scares you just a little bit, brings on just a little bit of the butterflies.
Here are some examples:
- Say hello to someone in the elevator.
- Be the first to smile at that cute person in the cafe.
- Have that difficult conversation you’ve been putting off.
- Try something new – be it an activity, sport, instrument or dish.
- Shake up your daily routine, try decaf instead.
- Dare to try a new flavour of tuna.
- Send that email.
- Apply for that position.
- Share your big idea.
- Volunteer to help with that project.
- Say no to something you would normally say yes to.
- Say yes to something that freaks you out.
- Take a cold shower!
Have fun getting your brave on this week.
And then I want to hear from you in the comments below… let me know what you choose to do, and how it makes you feel afterwards!
Have a FAB week!